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wont use schools 'safe space'

NAS39084
over 5 years ago

Has anyone got any tips to encourage a child to use a 'safe space' when they are overwhelmed.

Currently my child runs and hides and his school are really struggling with this.  They have made it very clear I have to get him using a safe space. 

I have made a nice box of things up for him but he doesn't like the idea at all, so we are starting with a very negative stance. 

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  • over 5 years ago

    I hope this doesn't sound too negative or cynical, but it doesn't sound to me like the school quite have this right. For two reasons...

    • Autistic people often aren't good at taking an idea from one situation and using it in another. Even if you do find something which works reliably at home, there is little guarantee that it would work at school too.
    • He's trying to hide. What is the point in trying to hide somewhere that you know you will be found?

    Surely the school should be more concerned about why he wants to hide and what or who he is trying to hide from. Whatever these things are, they are a product of the school environment, not his home. It is not a "safe space" at all if it isn't somewhere that he feels safe. Whether they haven't thought of this, or are simply trying to pass the buck, they need to rethink their approach. Your input may be vital, because you best know his sensitivities and comfort preferences, but ultimately any solution has to take the school environment into account.

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  • over 5 years ago

    I hope this doesn't sound too negative or cynical, but it doesn't sound to me like the school quite have this right. For two reasons...

    • Autistic people often aren't good at taking an idea from one situation and using it in another. Even if you do find something which works reliably at home, there is little guarantee that it would work at school too.
    • He's trying to hide. What is the point in trying to hide somewhere that you know you will be found?

    Surely the school should be more concerned about why he wants to hide and what or who he is trying to hide from. Whatever these things are, they are a product of the school environment, not his home. It is not a "safe space" at all if it isn't somewhere that he feels safe. Whether they haven't thought of this, or are simply trying to pass the buck, they need to rethink their approach. Your input may be vital, because you best know his sensitivities and comfort preferences, but ultimately any solution has to take the school environment into account.

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