Knackered

Ground to a standstill. The end of the summer holidays. They are too long. Its the same every year. I end up staring out of the window for days on end. Nothing gets done. I did cook a chicken for dinner, but I didn’t put it in the fridge later to save the leftovers. With the hot summer it went off, sitting on the side. Because I was too knackered to deal with it. I can’t even deal with myself. I’m skimping on tooth brushing, face washing and hair washing for both of us- me and Jack. It’s finished me off. Autism. He’s not finished me off, but the autism has.

A few years back it was continual train talk. Locations of steam locos, their numbers and gauges, their livery, their probable movements in the next few months. All very academically interesting in a steamy sort of way, and there was plenty to be had of it, that’s for sure. Draining though, day in day out, hour in hour out, minute in minute out.

Now it’s something else. Equally relentless. Equally draining.

Parents
  • My 16 yr old son was recently diagnosed, so I understand a little of how you are feeling. 

    Have you a partner or family that can help you or give you some time to yourself? 

    You really need to care for yourself in order to be able to care for your son.

    I really think you should go to your GP and tell them how you are feeling. It sounds to me like you may be depressed and could do with some help with this.

    Although I have a husband and daughter, the 'caring' is down to me and I really struggled for a while. My GP prescribed me anti-depressants (mainly for anxiety) but they definitely lifted my mood and just helped me cope with day to day living. Might be worth a try for you?

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  • My 16 yr old son was recently diagnosed, so I understand a little of how you are feeling. 

    Have you a partner or family that can help you or give you some time to yourself? 

    You really need to care for yourself in order to be able to care for your son.

    I really think you should go to your GP and tell them how you are feeling. It sounds to me like you may be depressed and could do with some help with this.

    Although I have a husband and daughter, the 'caring' is down to me and I really struggled for a while. My GP prescribed me anti-depressants (mainly for anxiety) but they definitely lifted my mood and just helped me cope with day to day living. Might be worth a try for you?

Children
  • Thanks for your concern and for taking the trouble to think about me. I'm very touched. I'm ok, really. I've been feeling knackered during long summer breaks for 21 years, so it's no change for me. I do take joy in many things my son does and says, and I feel blessed to have him in my life. Very blessed. But the summer holidays ARE long. Don't you think so?