Internet help

Hi. I am a parent of a 18 year old autistic boy and I need some help. He is developmentally about 13 years old. 

He has had access to the Internet and I have found in the search history pages relating to wegies and porn. I have had the discussion with him about sex and pornography but he keeps going back to the wegies videos and the search is starting to go towards girls rather than women.

How do I get him to stop? Where can I get help? 

I'm not very tech clever but willing to learn, if someone can point me in the right direction. 

I am also looking for maybe a counselling service or help group who can give me some advice on how to deal with allowing him Internet access in a safe and responsible way.

Hoping for some guidance and advice. 

Poppins 

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  • I've been thinking (worrying) more on your post.  Regarding the searching towards girls and not women, only you can guess the depth of the issue?

    If you were supported by a local autism group they might be your first port of call? 

    Don't forget you can always have a talk with your GP?  Book a double appointment so you are not rushed.  This is a safeguarding issue primarily for your son because he is vulnerable (as are the people he might be watching).  If the GP feels it necessary, they might be able to suggest/involve other services.  My understanding is that GPs will be sympathetic and will involve other services/professionals that are sympathetic (usually a wing of social services). 

    My understanding is that although he is an adult (18+) he is still eligible for all sorts of support, help and education until the age of 25.  I think it is very important though that you explain his legal position.  He could be led down all sorts of dark and illegal trails with internet click bait.

    Maybe a simple DVD player and a range of DVDs (Amazon have loads of porn DVDs, I see) might suffice? In his bedroom. Private time.

    NB: I am really not promoting porn and loath the idea of supporting the porn industry by buying DVDs but I would do this if I needed to protect my son.

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  • I've been thinking (worrying) more on your post.  Regarding the searching towards girls and not women, only you can guess the depth of the issue?

    If you were supported by a local autism group they might be your first port of call? 

    Don't forget you can always have a talk with your GP?  Book a double appointment so you are not rushed.  This is a safeguarding issue primarily for your son because he is vulnerable (as are the people he might be watching).  If the GP feels it necessary, they might be able to suggest/involve other services.  My understanding is that GPs will be sympathetic and will involve other services/professionals that are sympathetic (usually a wing of social services). 

    My understanding is that although he is an adult (18+) he is still eligible for all sorts of support, help and education until the age of 25.  I think it is very important though that you explain his legal position.  He could be led down all sorts of dark and illegal trails with internet click bait.

    Maybe a simple DVD player and a range of DVDs (Amazon have loads of porn DVDs, I see) might suffice? In his bedroom. Private time.

    NB: I am really not promoting porn and loath the idea of supporting the porn industry by buying DVDs but I would do this if I needed to protect my son.

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