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Ballerina

Hi, My 8 year old son has just been diagnosed as having "mild" Aspergers, if there is such a thing as "mild".  He "twiddles" quite obsessively and struggles with his school work (mainly his spelling and scentance writing), but is generally clever and has brilliant vocab.  He doesnt really show any other obvious signs.  (He does like to play with teddies a lot and can sometimes seem a little babyish in comparison to his peers).

We had suspected this for a few years, so in someways was pleased to have the diagnosis so that he can get the help he needs at school.

I was just wondering if there was any similar people out there, whos symptoms are so mild and how it affected you/your child throughout school, socially, etc, and any advise you can give to help improve his concentration on his school work.

I am hoping to get things sorted with his new teacher before the end of school in July, ready for the new school term in Sept, so at last we can move forward with some proper help that is needed specifically for him.  Again, any advice welcome. 

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  • My husband is the opposite ballerina, he encourages her, he still has alot of his teddies from when he was little, she's 'adopted' many of them but he still sneakily takes them to bed sometimes (pretty sure he is on the spectrum too but he won't seek diagnosis as he has no faith in the system). I have to sneakily get them out of the house, I go through her bears every few months and sort them into piles of "loves to death and would know instantly if they were gone" "Loves them but doesn't play with them as much as the others but will undoubtedly notice them gone" and "I don't recall her playing with this one for a while" and the ones from the last pile get put into a bin bag and hidden away in her wardrobe for 4/5 months if she doesn't ask for any of them I then send them on to her uncles house to live in his spare room for a year and then and only then can we get rid of them. As you can imagine this is a very long process and in the meantime that bag of teddies in the wardobe will already be partially replaced by new ones. I sometimes get her to join in with the' out with the old in with the new' clearing. She will quite happily get rid of lots of old toys before birthday/xmas etc but teddies are a no go area, you can pick any up and say can this go and that will no doubt be one of her favourites(even though it's been buried at the bottom of the pile on her bed for months).

    We use toys/teddies as rewards for good behaviour/encouraging things. She had a martial arts grading on sunday and if she's having a bad day she will not do it whatsoever, we already forsaw probelms because she had a small cut on her arm from the day before(she has real problems with pain) and she was saying she might not be able to do it because her arm hurt. So we said if she did really well with her grading that we could nip to the shops and get a small teddy, she totally aced the grading and skipped a level.

    Upset with trivial things is a very familiar thing for me, my daughter can become so upset over what seems like such an absolutely ridiculous reason. Although as I've come to notice more and more alot of the time it will because of having a bad day and so she's in a sensitive mood and the slightest thing can have her crying hysterically or screaming/ranting.

    My daughter's school has a traffic light grading system and in previous years she was always green for everything wheras on her latest report she had a number of ambers and I know it's all related to her not being able to concentrate because of sensory overload.

    Hopefully the school will be able to accomadate your son alot more now he has his diagnosis :)

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  • My husband is the opposite ballerina, he encourages her, he still has alot of his teddies from when he was little, she's 'adopted' many of them but he still sneakily takes them to bed sometimes (pretty sure he is on the spectrum too but he won't seek diagnosis as he has no faith in the system). I have to sneakily get them out of the house, I go through her bears every few months and sort them into piles of "loves to death and would know instantly if they were gone" "Loves them but doesn't play with them as much as the others but will undoubtedly notice them gone" and "I don't recall her playing with this one for a while" and the ones from the last pile get put into a bin bag and hidden away in her wardrobe for 4/5 months if she doesn't ask for any of them I then send them on to her uncles house to live in his spare room for a year and then and only then can we get rid of them. As you can imagine this is a very long process and in the meantime that bag of teddies in the wardobe will already be partially replaced by new ones. I sometimes get her to join in with the' out with the old in with the new' clearing. She will quite happily get rid of lots of old toys before birthday/xmas etc but teddies are a no go area, you can pick any up and say can this go and that will no doubt be one of her favourites(even though it's been buried at the bottom of the pile on her bed for months).

    We use toys/teddies as rewards for good behaviour/encouraging things. She had a martial arts grading on sunday and if she's having a bad day she will not do it whatsoever, we already forsaw probelms because she had a small cut on her arm from the day before(she has real problems with pain) and she was saying she might not be able to do it because her arm hurt. So we said if she did really well with her grading that we could nip to the shops and get a small teddy, she totally aced the grading and skipped a level.

    Upset with trivial things is a very familiar thing for me, my daughter can become so upset over what seems like such an absolutely ridiculous reason. Although as I've come to notice more and more alot of the time it will because of having a bad day and so she's in a sensitive mood and the slightest thing can have her crying hysterically or screaming/ranting.

    My daughter's school has a traffic light grading system and in previous years she was always green for everything wheras on her latest report she had a number of ambers and I know it's all related to her not being able to concentrate because of sensory overload.

    Hopefully the school will be able to accomadate your son alot more now he has his diagnosis :)

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