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behaviour since the diagnosis! ? help

stacey1471

I know this seems almost impossible as i have not even spoken to my son about his 'ASD' as he is 5 and i feel he is a bit young to take it all in.

But it seems that his behaviour seems to have got worse since the diagnosis?? 

All of a sudden he seems to be flying off the handle if things arn't going his way, shouting, screaming and generally having meltdowns but when we try to explain our reasons he just breaks down in tears saying sorry about a 1000 times, uncontroable emotional outburts. at times he kisses up my hands and arms or my feet, or he sometimes hides as he doesn't seem to be able to handle a 'converstaion' after being told 'no' or not getting his own way, without these melt downs.

He did these things before but it seems to be happening a lot more than before. 

Fortunatly he doesn't have many violent outburts, only just he gets frustrated with his younger brother, he is 17 months old and into everything and gets him by the wrists and shakes with anager and frustration while squeezing his brothers wrists this is the behaviour i am working on and trying to expalin that although 'lil' brothers can be frustrating he cannot do this he must call for help. 

Thanks for reading, look fordward to your replies Smile 

stacey

  • Hi Stacey,

    It's difficult to know how to advise you on this.

    On the general point of his behaviour becoming worse since diagnosis, well, although you haven't told him (and, btw, I think you should - this is one of those things like if you're adopted - when do you tell them - and I think the more open and honest you are, and the sooner you tell them, the better, because the longer it goes on the harder it becomes), he will know that 'something' is up - firstly he went to the diagnosis, secondly as much as you try to be the same you will be treating him differently now, and he will pick up on that - so, that may well be why he's behaviour has got worse.

    I certainly find that my Asperger's symptoms are worse at times of stress and anxiety.

    Now, regarding his behaviour with his younger brother - you may find rewarding him, for doing something else when his brother annoys him, works. Failing that, try to keep them apart until the younger one is old enough to fend for himself.