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Feeling really low

NAS35090

Hi All,

I've just joined the forum.  My lovely son is 11 and recently started high school.  He is really struggling to get organinsed with homework and this is leading to more and more major meltdowns.  We are currently on the path to diagnosis, though I have had my suspicions / theories since he was about 6 months old.

He seems extra angry and anxious (puberty / starting school?) at the moment, lashing out, room trashing, very sweary.  I'm afraid last night all my calmness went out the window and I yelled back and it just descended into a shouting match at 10pm - today has left me feeling guilty, sad and depressed myself. 

He doesn't sleep well, never has (he has to settle in our bed and get moved later) - he has very strong separation anxiety issues with me.  His normally challenging eating habits have turned into something much more difficult as now he isn't eating very much at all, unless its junk or plain pasta.  The games console both calms and annoys him depending on what day it is.  He has major issues with textures, socks, underwear but at the moment the 'rules' are changing every day and I can't seem to keep up.

I'm afraid I'm not supporting him well enough and I feel I'm neglecting my  daughter because my son takes up so much time. My son and his dad clash a lot so I fee like it's just me carrying the can, along with working and everything else life throws at you.   I guess I'm asking, does anyone else feel like this, does anyone have any homework tips, sleep tips, life tips.

Thanks

A Frazzled mum

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  • From one frazzled mum to another, Hi!

    What you're going through is exactly the same as me, except my son is now, just 3 years older however, all of his major symptoms started when moving schools through Y7-Y8.  The feeling of absolute desperation and exhaustion due to carrying the stressful weight on your shoulders I totally get.  I've been there and am still.  I also have and younger son in Y7 who is doing really well and I too feel that my older son takes up so much of my time and energy that I feel don't have the same amount of time for his younger brother.  My eldest son also clashes with his Dad so there again, alot of the deep breathes and peace making lays on me.  It's really tough and I totally get where you're coming from.

    Unfortunately I have no tips.  Just wanted to say that you're not alone xx  It's really tough - coupled with puberty as well!!  Argghhh!

    We have a dog and sometimes when I feel just too overwhelmed and about the explode, I walk.  

    Good luck xx

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  • From one frazzled mum to another, Hi!

    What you're going through is exactly the same as me, except my son is now, just 3 years older however, all of his major symptoms started when moving schools through Y7-Y8.  The feeling of absolute desperation and exhaustion due to carrying the stressful weight on your shoulders I totally get.  I've been there and am still.  I also have and younger son in Y7 who is doing really well and I too feel that my older son takes up so much of my time and energy that I feel don't have the same amount of time for his younger brother.  My eldest son also clashes with his Dad so there again, alot of the deep breathes and peace making lays on me.  It's really tough and I totally get where you're coming from.

    Unfortunately I have no tips.  Just wanted to say that you're not alone xx  It's really tough - coupled with puberty as well!!  Argghhh!

    We have a dog and sometimes when I feel just too overwhelmed and about the explode, I walk.  

    Good luck xx

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