Ashamed of myself.

Hi, my 11 year old son has autism, I have never had a problem with his diagnosis, and have fought for all the help he deserves. However I met an old friend today, we have been friends for years, until we have our son and they had there 1st son. Thingswere ok until our son 's development became delayed at around 12months. I retracted from all toddler groups, and our friends, we eventually moved so the gap widened. In honesty I know it's because It hurts to see their neurotypical son talking and being very adult like, and my son standing looking into a corner talking to himself. In everyday life I'm fine everybody know's about his autism and he goes to a special school, who are wonderful. Today however I was back feeling sad about the obvious differences between my son and other kids of the same age.  He is the 2nd of 4 children and he is fabulous I wouldn't change him, so I don't understand why I feel like this when I see this particular boy?

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  • Vicjoy, your post just really hit home for me as that is exactly how I feel at the moment. My daughter is almost 4 & hasn't officially been diagnosed yet but it's looking very likely she will be soon. I too have withdrawn from toddler groups etc because it hurts to see all the "a typical" children bringing their mummies pictures, shouting mummy etc & my little girl sits on her own & lines crayons up or peels the paper off of them without uttering a word to anyone. It breaks my heart everytime someone starts on about how much their child does etc. I wouldn't change Ella for the world but I just sometimes wish that she was just like everyone else's children. I hate myself for it after & tell myself that I cannot change things I just have to deal with it but it doesn't take away the upset & hurt everytime I have to encounter other parents.   

    It's nice to know it's not just me who feels this way. x

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  • Vicjoy, your post just really hit home for me as that is exactly how I feel at the moment. My daughter is almost 4 & hasn't officially been diagnosed yet but it's looking very likely she will be soon. I too have withdrawn from toddler groups etc because it hurts to see all the "a typical" children bringing their mummies pictures, shouting mummy etc & my little girl sits on her own & lines crayons up or peels the paper off of them without uttering a word to anyone. It breaks my heart everytime someone starts on about how much their child does etc. I wouldn't change Ella for the world but I just sometimes wish that she was just like everyone else's children. I hate myself for it after & tell myself that I cannot change things I just have to deal with it but it doesn't take away the upset & hurt everytime I have to encounter other parents.   

    It's nice to know it's not just me who feels this way. x

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