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Ashamed of myself.

vicjoy

Hi, my 11 year old son has autism, I have never had a problem with his diagnosis, and have fought for all the help he deserves. However I met an old friend today, we have been friends for years, until we have our son and they had there 1st son. Thingswere ok until our son 's development became delayed at around 12months. I retracted from all toddler groups, and our friends, we eventually moved so the gap widened. In honesty I know it's because It hurts to see their neurotypical son talking and being very adult like, and my son standing looking into a corner talking to himself. In everyday life I'm fine everybody know's about his autism and he goes to a special school, who are wonderful. Today however I was back feeling sad about the obvious differences between my son and other kids of the same age.  He is the 2nd of 4 children and he is fabulous I wouldn't change him, so I don't understand why I feel like this when I see this particular boy?

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  • Hi Micro, I also feel sad. If I had the opportunity to take autism out of him, I would in a second. I love him no end. I must tell him I love him about 10 times a day. 

    People keep saying " be proud" this causes frustration in me because I think " be proud? be proud of what exactly?" I feel proud of him for being such a good boy, for being nice with other children and to people in general. I am VERY nervous about how carers at school and kids will treat him when he gets older. But I doubt it if these feelings will ever go away. 

    I was told by someone that when your kid is diagnosed as Autistic we naturally go through a greeving process, I think this might me slightly true with me. 

    I was shown the "Welcome to Holland" clip on YouTube and it just hit the spot.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r15PuYoID94

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  • Hi Micro, I also feel sad. If I had the opportunity to take autism out of him, I would in a second. I love him no end. I must tell him I love him about 10 times a day. 

    People keep saying " be proud" this causes frustration in me because I think " be proud? be proud of what exactly?" I feel proud of him for being such a good boy, for being nice with other children and to people in general. I am VERY nervous about how carers at school and kids will treat him when he gets older. But I doubt it if these feelings will ever go away. 

    I was told by someone that when your kid is diagnosed as Autistic we naturally go through a greeving process, I think this might me slightly true with me. 

    I was shown the "Welcome to Holland" clip on YouTube and it just hit the spot.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r15PuYoID94

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