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Ashamed of myself.

vicjoy

Hi, my 11 year old son has autism, I have never had a problem with his diagnosis, and have fought for all the help he deserves. However I met an old friend today, we have been friends for years, until we have our son and they had there 1st son. Thingswere ok until our son 's development became delayed at around 12months. I retracted from all toddler groups, and our friends, we eventually moved so the gap widened. In honesty I know it's because It hurts to see their neurotypical son talking and being very adult like, and my son standing looking into a corner talking to himself. In everyday life I'm fine everybody know's about his autism and he goes to a special school, who are wonderful. Today however I was back feeling sad about the obvious differences between my son and other kids of the same age.  He is the 2nd of 4 children and he is fabulous I wouldn't change him, so I don't understand why I feel like this when I see this particular boy?

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  • Vicjoy. I feel the same. I've thought about this a lot because it doesn't sit right with me.  I've met some amazing people with Autism. I thought I genuinely believed difference was interesting and good, so why should I be sad about my son?

    Seeing typical kids reminds me that my son has challenges to deal with and I feel sad that he will always have it tough. Seeing parents with their typical kids reminds me that I may never know him and understand him in the same way and because I love him, I want to understand every little bit of him. I'm not sad he is Autistic, but I am really sad about the bad things it might mean for him. I don't want to change his differences but I really wish they didn't cause him so much distress.

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  • Vicjoy. I feel the same. I've thought about this a lot because it doesn't sit right with me.  I've met some amazing people with Autism. I thought I genuinely believed difference was interesting and good, so why should I be sad about my son?

    Seeing typical kids reminds me that my son has challenges to deal with and I feel sad that he will always have it tough. Seeing parents with their typical kids reminds me that I may never know him and understand him in the same way and because I love him, I want to understand every little bit of him. I'm not sad he is Autistic, but I am really sad about the bad things it might mean for him. I don't want to change his differences but I really wish they didn't cause him so much distress.

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