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Ashamed of myself.

vicjoy

Hi, my 11 year old son has autism, I have never had a problem with his diagnosis, and have fought for all the help he deserves. However I met an old friend today, we have been friends for years, until we have our son and they had there 1st son. Thingswere ok until our son 's development became delayed at around 12months. I retracted from all toddler groups, and our friends, we eventually moved so the gap widened. In honesty I know it's because It hurts to see their neurotypical son talking and being very adult like, and my son standing looking into a corner talking to himself. In everyday life I'm fine everybody know's about his autism and he goes to a special school, who are wonderful. Today however I was back feeling sad about the obvious differences between my son and other kids of the same age.  He is the 2nd of 4 children and he is fabulous I wouldn't change him, so I don't understand why I feel like this when I see this particular boy?

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  • @vicjoy I thought the same thing as Scorpion. Maybe it's one of those things that are confusing and take time. :-( Don't be ashamed. If you see a child that is really impressively mature, ask him whether he wants to be your son's mentor for a while. A mature teenager might consider that a compliment and actually do it (well, totally depends on the kid's character, of course, your call).

    @Amanda Hah, that story is great! Somewhere I also read a story like, every one is on boats in the ocean and a few are on bicycles on land, and while it may be fun to jump off a boat for a swim, it's no fun to jump headfirst off a bike, but that doesn't mean that bikers are jumping "wrong".

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  • @vicjoy I thought the same thing as Scorpion. Maybe it's one of those things that are confusing and take time. :-( Don't be ashamed. If you see a child that is really impressively mature, ask him whether he wants to be your son's mentor for a while. A mature teenager might consider that a compliment and actually do it (well, totally depends on the kid's character, of course, your call).

    @Amanda Hah, that story is great! Somewhere I also read a story like, every one is on boats in the ocean and a few are on bicycles on land, and while it may be fun to jump off a boat for a swim, it's no fun to jump headfirst off a bike, but that doesn't mean that bikers are jumping "wrong".

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