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child with ASD and fear of being on his own

southafr

Hi there, i am new to this forum great advice and glad to know we are not on our own.  I wondered if anyone could help with some advice.  My son who will be 8 in two weeks all of a sudden say the last two months, does not want to me on his own.  He is scared to do anything in the house without someone being there with him.  I could be in the living room and he wont even go and get a box of toys in the same room.  We have a dinning room and kitchen all in one and he cannot be in the dinning room if we are in the kitchen on his own.  He used to be such a good sleeper when he was little now we have to sit by the stairs or in his room till he falls asleep and then he wakes really early.  He cannot explain to us why he is scared and when we try and talk to him about it he does not want to know.

Has anyone been in this experience before.  It is very frustrating to deal with and I know he is obviously scared but I dont know what to say to him to make him understand that nothing will happen to him at home.

Thank you

  • Thank you that is really helpful, I suppose you just want to try and help all the time, and it actual sometimes you have to just step back and give them time.  Thanks for your advice

  • Regarding the "does not know why", and "can't explain" - I have Asperger's and when I'm in the middle of experiencing or feeling something like that, I can't find the words to describe it, but later, sometimes when I'm doing or thinking about something else, usually a related thing, I'll be able to explain it.

    When I'm 'in the moment' it's all too overwhelming.

  • Thank you for your advice, that sounds like a good idea, instead of trying to get him to explain which sometimes he says he does not know why he is scared and cant explain which i believe, but if we can do it through play that might be an idea.

    Thank you very much

  • When you say you try to talk to him about it, is it like a you just ask him questions kind of thing?

    Maybe try introducing the question into play, or a story, or something?

    Say if he plays with lego, ask him if he'd like to build a house, and then have a 'mummy' figure in one room of the house and a 'child' (maybe it a name that's similar to or the same as his) figure in another room, and say something like "'whatever-the-child-figure's-name-is' is scared, why is he scared?"