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Grandparents want to be involved - but the emotional etc. cost

vonclimax

My wife & I are fit, intelligent 73 year olds.   My daughter (48) & her 6.5 year severely autistic boy are currently on their longest visit yet - 5 days so far,  (but I wish they were going home tommorrow). Oh! the guilt, for not wanting to 'soldier on regardless'.  Of course my misssus is much better at all this than I.

To give my daughter respite, we are watching, feeding & cleaning up after the boy for some 14 hours daily. He's a beautiful angel, destroyer of property, creator of tension, who while not doubly incontinent is likely to empty his bowels in bed or in the bath.   We know that perhaps there is no answer, but would greatly appreciate any advice in coping, without losing the will to live.

Thanks in advance............

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  • Thanks v. much Princess, Jim & Patiens for your heat-warming advice - all of which will be followed.   You are all correct of course!   A lot of the time I am in balance: frayed nerves & emotional exhaustion are worth it when you get the cuddle, smile, eye-contact, or a cogent 'mand' addressed directly to you.  

    The polished dining table has been treated like an anvil. OK I'll cover it next visit.  The enamel on the bath has been chipped & wallpaper scored elsewhere.  I'm learning to regard these as 'honourable scars', won in the great respite campaign.

    They left 24 hours ago & I'll need another 48/72 hours to recover at least.   Then I guess we'll try hard to gird our loins for the next half term.

    Of course we have to try & compensate his year older healthy brother,   who has to obey all the rules as he watches his brother run wild.   

    Thank you for being here, warmest best wishes to all...........

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  • Thanks v. much Princess, Jim & Patiens for your heat-warming advice - all of which will be followed.   You are all correct of course!   A lot of the time I am in balance: frayed nerves & emotional exhaustion are worth it when you get the cuddle, smile, eye-contact, or a cogent 'mand' addressed directly to you.  

    The polished dining table has been treated like an anvil. OK I'll cover it next visit.  The enamel on the bath has been chipped & wallpaper scored elsewhere.  I'm learning to regard these as 'honourable scars', won in the great respite campaign.

    They left 24 hours ago & I'll need another 48/72 hours to recover at least.   Then I guess we'll try hard to gird our loins for the next half term.

    Of course we have to try & compensate his year older healthy brother,   who has to obey all the rules as he watches his brother run wild.   

    Thank you for being here, warmest best wishes to all...........

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