I have an adult son (25 this year) with mild, high functioning, aspergers living at home and he's stuck in some bad patterns of behaviour which I don't seem to be able to get him to shift.
At it's worse, he is taking things in the house that don't belong to him despite numerous warnings about it being unacceptable, he sleeps all day and is up all night. He appears to have no motivation for getting a job or even benefits but is able to manage a social life.
This has been the same since leaving school with only brief interuptions for any periods of employment which tend to be short.
I am concerned by his lack of independence, inability to budget, keep anywhere clean, move beyond teenage behaviour. I have gotten angry, I have explained the need for change for his own and my benefit. I have told him I cannot afford to financially support him any longer but nothing seems to shift him. My friends believe I should throw him out of the house and that he would learn to manage, I am not convinced of this. He will not engage with any organisation set up to help people on the spectrum, part of his not accepting his disability.
I know there will be many out there managing with far more serious behaviours but I'd appreciate any suggestions as it's making me feel very low that this might be a permanent situation for me, and him. Thanks