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Dad just been diagnosed with aspergers

Leademps

I'm 15, my dad has just been diagnosed today with aspergers, I have always known he was different, Ive never really known anyone well with aspergers or autism in general, is there anything I should know about how to treat him, I'm worried that I might be indulging behaviours that aren't good for him, I'll always treat him with the Same love I always have , I just don't want to hurt him unintentionally.

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  • Hi Leademps

    I know you are concerned about your dad, but remember a diagnosis does not change anything.

    Your dad is still the same father he always was.  The diagnosis has perhaps helped him understand why he is the way he is.  Don't worry about how you should 'treat' him, just be the same as you always were.  I am sure he has made it plain what he does not like before, and I would think you already know what these things are.

    I don't know if he sometimes gets a bit stressed out, or perhaps he may embarrass you.  As a father myself, I know I embarrass my kids.  I'm afraid that is something that comes with having a dad, especially one who is autistic.  I'm sure you love him just the same, for what he is.  Knowing he's autistic means he is extra special, and I bet he is very proud to be your parent.

    And you have known someone who is autistic all your life.  Your father, and he is unique, there won't be anyone else like him.

    By the way, I have been diagnosed only since just before Christmas and the only way being diagnosed has affected me is thinking of what might have been if i had known all my life.  I certainly woulld not want to be 'not autistic' as I have been autistic all my life and I have known nothing else.  And your father might think much along the same lines.