Losing hope and feeling helpless

I've never been on here before and I feel this is my last attempt in trying to reach out for help. Feeling lost and alone in this dispite being married. My son as had a diag of ADHD and Aspergers since 5yrs old and now is 24 And his situation just keeps getting worse. He's at weight of about 7stone not eating, self harming, mentally unstable and believes he has nothing to contribute and would better to be dead then feel he is a burden any longer. 

I'm afraid he won't see another year if I can't find he help or some salvation for hope in that things will get better for him.

i feel a shamed to say he's now smoking drugs for the past 4 yrs in order for him to cope with his feelings and emotion. He's falling into a wrong group of people who I believe prayed on people like him. He's desperate to change and doesn't know how too, he has had a number of key workers that have come and gone over the years but nothing changes.

Im at a stage where my own health feels vulnerable and I'm in despai. I feel My son needs a break from his situation and his home And I don't where to get help from. Please can anyone offer advice or support 

julie

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  • Hey Julie,

     Regardless of the people who say such drugs can have a positive effect, they negatively impact just as many people. You need to get doctors involved. I think a local crisis team can do this in some areas? I think as a drug user, neurodiverse and likely (don't know how build or height) severely underweight state will hopefully (how awful a word to have to use in this context) qualify him for professional services. If he's had keyworkers, then they'll be records which will hopefully help any professionals to make a decision on what course of action to take.  

    I think that you could possibly take him to an A&E and they can refer you on? But you should certainly phone a crisis service/ your local GP surgery for advice on how to proceed. You could talk to him and see about the possibilities of him being sectioned or put into a strict out-patient service? At least in my country, he can nominate you to make these decisions for him? If he thinks he doesn't have the motivation to push on through.

    He wants to change. That's a very important mindset to have. And he needs professional help and likely to be removed from those 'bad group' of 'friends'. 

    I'm sorry I can't suggest more specific 'who to call', but the NAS community forum operates with strict guidelines on personal information (including location) not being disclosed. I'm no expert and I only know this because I'm having struggles with my own mental health and my GP has taken the time to make sure I knew what options I had in an emergency crisis. You have my thoughts with you and your son right now, Julie. 

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  • Hey Julie,

     Regardless of the people who say such drugs can have a positive effect, they negatively impact just as many people. You need to get doctors involved. I think a local crisis team can do this in some areas? I think as a drug user, neurodiverse and likely (don't know how build or height) severely underweight state will hopefully (how awful a word to have to use in this context) qualify him for professional services. If he's had keyworkers, then they'll be records which will hopefully help any professionals to make a decision on what course of action to take.  

    I think that you could possibly take him to an A&E and they can refer you on? But you should certainly phone a crisis service/ your local GP surgery for advice on how to proceed. You could talk to him and see about the possibilities of him being sectioned or put into a strict out-patient service? At least in my country, he can nominate you to make these decisions for him? If he thinks he doesn't have the motivation to push on through.

    He wants to change. That's a very important mindset to have. And he needs professional help and likely to be removed from those 'bad group' of 'friends'. 

    I'm sorry I can't suggest more specific 'who to call', but the NAS community forum operates with strict guidelines on personal information (including location) not being disclosed. I'm no expert and I only know this because I'm having struggles with my own mental health and my GP has taken the time to make sure I knew what options I had in an emergency crisis. You have my thoughts with you and your son right now, Julie. 

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