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summerfun12

I am quite close to an 8 year old girl who suffers from autism. she is quite often left out by her friend and feel alone, i often see her alone but always check up on her and ask her if shes ok. This is affecting her school life, home life, friends and when she goes out in public. I hate to see her like this and want to try and make her feel loved and that she does have friends. she is very indendant and likes to do things her own way. she doesnt beat around the bush she tells you straight and thats what makes her, her. Im not sure how i can help, any help is appreciated, thank you x

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  • As someone who has Asperger (a low scale form or autism) and has gone through this stage.. Perhaps I can offer some advice. 

    I'm in my twentys now,  but growing up and particularly through my school years, I had a lot of trouble communicating. 

    What comes as instinct to others,  we need to learn. How do you start a conversation? What interests others? How do I make friends? What do I say?  For me, it was not that I didn't want friends. I was longing for good friends,  but just didn't know how to make them. 

    Due to the troubles I had at attempting to chat to my peers, I was really shy and it was even harder because of that. 

    Now I'm older and have some great friends,  but still less than most other folks. I've learned with time and find things much easier. I'm sure the same will happen with her. She will learn to converse and make friends. The intricacies of interaction with others. 

    My advice would be to try to build her confidence up a bit if you can.  Continue to be friendly towards her and build on the friendship. If you can chat with her about her frustrations in a relaxing non intimidating manner,  then perhaps you can get her to open up and determine the areas she finds most difficult with conversation/interaction. You can offer her advice on how to combat those issues.

    Trust me,   she will work it out as she gets older. I wish I had been able to talk through things and get good solid answers on how to conduct myself. 

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  • As someone who has Asperger (a low scale form or autism) and has gone through this stage.. Perhaps I can offer some advice. 

    I'm in my twentys now,  but growing up and particularly through my school years, I had a lot of trouble communicating. 

    What comes as instinct to others,  we need to learn. How do you start a conversation? What interests others? How do I make friends? What do I say?  For me, it was not that I didn't want friends. I was longing for good friends,  but just didn't know how to make them. 

    Due to the troubles I had at attempting to chat to my peers, I was really shy and it was even harder because of that. 

    Now I'm older and have some great friends,  but still less than most other folks. I've learned with time and find things much easier. I'm sure the same will happen with her. She will learn to converse and make friends. The intricacies of interaction with others. 

    My advice would be to try to build her confidence up a bit if you can.  Continue to be friendly towards her and build on the friendship. If you can chat with her about her frustrations in a relaxing non intimidating manner,  then perhaps you can get her to open up and determine the areas she finds most difficult with conversation/interaction. You can offer her advice on how to combat those issues.

    Trust me,   she will work it out as she gets older. I wish I had been able to talk through things and get good solid answers on how to conduct myself. 

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