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Violence at home

Rach91

hello my names Rachel I have asd and ADHD i'm 25 and I live at home with my parents and i don't on with my dad he was very strict when I was growing up whenever I did something he use the slipper or raise his hand to me and shout really loud and it's had a very negative affect on me growing up and going into adulthood. Anyway whenever we argue now i have to try and walk away because things can quickly get out of hand. Well tonight they did I bought my dad some chocote raisens as he always buys me chocolate and he asked me to get them from the fridge 4 him so I threw them 2 him then he gets aggressive and throws them back hard accusing me of being violent when I wasn't so i pick them up and throw them back saying I wasn't and if u want them eat them so then he throws a dog bone at my leg which now has a cut because of that and I just lost it and he there taunging me I rember hitting his leg and my mum pushes me away I wasn't hitting him hard it was more like tapping him he threatens to phone the police and I run off. I am not a violent person but when someone winds me up I snap cos of my asd. I really want this to stop my dad always starts everything off the police won't do anything but I really want to take this futher now 4 my dad to stop his behavour for my safety and my mums I am will to confess to my mistakes I've taken a picture of my leg but I don't want anyone to really get into trouble or the police getting involved I just want my dad to understand his behavour and for all of this to stop.

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  • i hope you are feeling abit better now you have had time to come down.

    i was in an abusive relationship for over 20 years and it ended just over a year ago.  i am having interpersonal relationship therapy now.  my therapist keeps telling me he wont ever change and you have to accept it and take care of yourself.

    so you can either talk to him and explain how he feels.  ask for a gp referral and get some counselling or therapy if you havent already and work it all out yourself first then decide what you want to do.

    sometimes staying where you are feels better than the fear of moving on and being alone from any parent or partner relationship i guess so we hold onto what we have.

    i have been so scared this past year i realised how much i relied on him because of social anxiety but i was trying to hold onto a relationship that wasnt true.

    talk to you mum see if she can help you all to get past this and understand more about your asd.  does your dad have meltdowns too do you think he might also have asd.

    take care and breath.

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  • i hope you are feeling abit better now you have had time to come down.

    i was in an abusive relationship for over 20 years and it ended just over a year ago.  i am having interpersonal relationship therapy now.  my therapist keeps telling me he wont ever change and you have to accept it and take care of yourself.

    so you can either talk to him and explain how he feels.  ask for a gp referral and get some counselling or therapy if you havent already and work it all out yourself first then decide what you want to do.

    sometimes staying where you are feels better than the fear of moving on and being alone from any parent or partner relationship i guess so we hold onto what we have.

    i have been so scared this past year i realised how much i relied on him because of social anxiety but i was trying to hold onto a relationship that wasnt true.

    talk to you mum see if she can help you all to get past this and understand more about your asd.  does your dad have meltdowns too do you think he might also have asd.

    take care and breath.

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