Any other gender diverse people here?

i think this counts as a special interest - of mine, anyway. I've met so many other people on the spectrum who are gender diverse in some way, and I'm always happy to connect.

By gender diverse I mean trans, intersex, genderqueer, gender questioning, agender, non-binary, and so on...

I'm genderless and trans female, I began transitioning six years ago in my 40s. Gender never really made any sense of my experience at all (though I have no problems with it working for other people), I just knew my body was supposed to be female, so I got it upcycled :-). I co-lead a non-binary support group in the South West, and kind of unofficially mentor younger trans and/or non-binary people, many of whom as I said are also on the spectrum.

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  • TRue sometimes I hate labels, as they can be so restrictive, such as describing a band as a specific genre of music when really there's a musical diversity that encapsulates so many genres.
    As re normality wnat is the state of being "normal" I think if I was called "normal" I'd take that as an insult. I was at my mum's a few weeks ago and a trailer  came on for "Off THeir Rockers" it's senior citizens playing practical jokes on people, and being rather eccentric. My mum and uncle were like thinking maybe people will think all senior citizens are like that, and it wasn't really their thing, but I said it's right up my street. That will be me when I'm a senior citizen.

    I know some friends say that men and women can't be equal, which yes on a physical level, yes men can't get pregnant and give birth and our bodies were intended for different roles in surviving. Equally I don't see many women wanting to become firefighters or miners, equally I don't see many men in nursing or care work or working in a nursery full of infants. However I say good luck to anyone who takes up that challenge.  Go into any toy store and you'll see "Girls Toys" and "Boys Toys" rather than listing toys by type.  
    Yes true women can play Rock/Metal music and sing the Blues, Girlschool, Suzi Quatro, Joan Jett, L7 and Janis Joplin spring to mind to name a few. 

    Maybe in this day and age it's the PC thing to do to be "gender neutral", tho as you say true diversity is embracing differences, so maybe the old fashioned ways tho they may seem "sexist" in this day and age tho a look at some of these Christmas  ads seem to define gifts for women and gifts for men  www.youtube.com/watch and this one www.youtube.com/watch. I think true gender diversity is about being a girly girl or a blokey bloke and the various stages in between as you so wish.

    I know myself I consider myself a 100% straight female when it comes to sexuality, I know I fancy men and the more alpha male looking they are the better. I tehd to dislike men with more rounded, or baby looking faces. I know that I don't identify as a gay male, born into a female body, and I personally feel repulsed at the thought of myself getting sexually involved with another female. I think maybe it's me feeling a dissapointment to my mum as I think she thought she was expecting a boy, and if I was male I was going to be Steven, but I don't think she'd thought about me being a girl, as from what she'd said she was convinced I'd be a boy, a girls name was an afterthought, so I don't think she was very happy when I turned out to be Louise. In terms of interest when I found out I liked railways I know my mum has said to me "You should've been a boy" as if there's someting "odd" about a female having an interest in railways.   

    I love the modeling pics, that's really androgynous I can;t work out if you're supposed to be male or female in the shots, but then again that's celebrating the eqality between the sexes, are you being your male or female self.   I don't think many men can pull it off to dress as a woman or embrace their masculine and feminine sides. David Bowie sure could look good in a dress, and Roger Taylor from Queen in the video for I Want To Break Free sure looked good dressed as a female. I know it was supposed to be a parody of Coronation Street, but if I didn't know it was Roger dressed as a female I would've said that he (or rather she)  was a born female. I've seen some trans people who look convincing as their chosen sex. I know I did read of a former Para by the name of Ian , who I believe is now a woman called Jan, and I would've said Jan had been female since birth to look at her.I've heard of a few  trans  people April Asley, Lily Elbe, Kellie Maloney,  Chelsea Manning Kaitlyn Jenner and Roberta Cowell and Michael Dillon, I remember seeing a documentary on the latter two, and in the case of Roberta I knew the RAF never had female fighter pilots , so I was a little confused at how she became a fighter pilot then found out she was male at the time!!! I would say many of them look convincing at being their chosen sex!!!   

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  • TRue sometimes I hate labels, as they can be so restrictive, such as describing a band as a specific genre of music when really there's a musical diversity that encapsulates so many genres.
    As re normality wnat is the state of being "normal" I think if I was called "normal" I'd take that as an insult. I was at my mum's a few weeks ago and a trailer  came on for "Off THeir Rockers" it's senior citizens playing practical jokes on people, and being rather eccentric. My mum and uncle were like thinking maybe people will think all senior citizens are like that, and it wasn't really their thing, but I said it's right up my street. That will be me when I'm a senior citizen.

    I know some friends say that men and women can't be equal, which yes on a physical level, yes men can't get pregnant and give birth and our bodies were intended for different roles in surviving. Equally I don't see many women wanting to become firefighters or miners, equally I don't see many men in nursing or care work or working in a nursery full of infants. However I say good luck to anyone who takes up that challenge.  Go into any toy store and you'll see "Girls Toys" and "Boys Toys" rather than listing toys by type.  
    Yes true women can play Rock/Metal music and sing the Blues, Girlschool, Suzi Quatro, Joan Jett, L7 and Janis Joplin spring to mind to name a few. 

    Maybe in this day and age it's the PC thing to do to be "gender neutral", tho as you say true diversity is embracing differences, so maybe the old fashioned ways tho they may seem "sexist" in this day and age tho a look at some of these Christmas  ads seem to define gifts for women and gifts for men  www.youtube.com/watch and this one www.youtube.com/watch. I think true gender diversity is about being a girly girl or a blokey bloke and the various stages in between as you so wish.

    I know myself I consider myself a 100% straight female when it comes to sexuality, I know I fancy men and the more alpha male looking they are the better. I tehd to dislike men with more rounded, or baby looking faces. I know that I don't identify as a gay male, born into a female body, and I personally feel repulsed at the thought of myself getting sexually involved with another female. I think maybe it's me feeling a dissapointment to my mum as I think she thought she was expecting a boy, and if I was male I was going to be Steven, but I don't think she'd thought about me being a girl, as from what she'd said she was convinced I'd be a boy, a girls name was an afterthought, so I don't think she was very happy when I turned out to be Louise. In terms of interest when I found out I liked railways I know my mum has said to me "You should've been a boy" as if there's someting "odd" about a female having an interest in railways.   

    I love the modeling pics, that's really androgynous I can;t work out if you're supposed to be male or female in the shots, but then again that's celebrating the eqality between the sexes, are you being your male or female self.   I don't think many men can pull it off to dress as a woman or embrace their masculine and feminine sides. David Bowie sure could look good in a dress, and Roger Taylor from Queen in the video for I Want To Break Free sure looked good dressed as a female. I know it was supposed to be a parody of Coronation Street, but if I didn't know it was Roger dressed as a female I would've said that he (or rather she)  was a born female. I've seen some trans people who look convincing as their chosen sex. I know I did read of a former Para by the name of Ian , who I believe is now a woman called Jan, and I would've said Jan had been female since birth to look at her.I've heard of a few  trans  people April Asley, Lily Elbe, Kellie Maloney,  Chelsea Manning Kaitlyn Jenner and Roberta Cowell and Michael Dillon, I remember seeing a documentary on the latter two, and in the case of Roberta I knew the RAF never had female fighter pilots , so I was a little confused at how she became a fighter pilot then found out she was male at the time!!! I would say many of them look convincing at being their chosen sex!!!   

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