Any other gender diverse people here?

i think this counts as a special interest - of mine, anyway. I've met so many other people on the spectrum who are gender diverse in some way, and I'm always happy to connect.

By gender diverse I mean trans, intersex, genderqueer, gender questioning, agender, non-binary, and so on...

I'm genderless and trans female, I began transitioning six years ago in my 40s. Gender never really made any sense of my experience at all (though I have no problems with it working for other people), I just knew my body was supposed to be female, so I got it upcycled :-). I co-lead a non-binary support group in the South West, and kind of unofficially mentor younger trans and/or non-binary people, many of whom as I said are also on the spectrum.

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  • I think I've learned that I can be female, but also enjoy more traditionally male interests.  I did know one dude he was into embroidery/cross stich, but then he was also into making and flying rockets. I'm not sure I'd like to become a man, tho it would be interesting if I could wake up a man, just to see what it was like,and if I didn't like it to wake up my female self. Tho putting myself through an op seems too permanent, it's not as if it can be reversed.
    Perhaps it was my mum that put doubts about my gender in my mind, with her comments "You should've been a boy". I know at infants school one day I ended up having to change out of my day clothes, maybe something got spilled or I was sick, and ended up wearing my PE shorts and this boy Kevin was calling me a boy, tho I thought and said to the teacher "But I;m a girl" and she said "JUst ignore him". I know when I worked at an old folks homeone day I saw Reg one of the residents naked I was trying not to laugh at the tiny size of his manhood, poor guy. I know I said to my friend Val who worked there that he doesn;t seem to have a hair on his body. Her theory was maybe his hormones/chromosones got confused, were they male or female.
    I did wonder, tho I felt the relationship with my mum was usually somewhat aloof, I know she said I was somewhat aloof, tho I felt she was often cold to me, as a kid  I often thought "Why don't you love me mummy/mum".  Perhaps I felt I was a dissapointment to her as she was so convinced I'd be a boy, so I did wonder should I try and become "Steven" which was going to be my name if I was a boy. I was also born 5-6 weeks early, tho a friend's daughter had a son who was 12 weeks early, but she connected with him. I know my mum blames my being born early on our relationship. I don't know if some females may be exposed to more testosterone in the womb and some males more estrogen, amd perhaps that's what gives these babies traditional interests of the opposite sex, if I was exposed to more testosterone then that might explain some of  my interests or why my mum thought I might be a boy.
    Yep I;m the same I'm quite interested in the military I don't know what started that off. perhaps a neighbour who was a national serviceman, and I thought he looked smart in his army uniform, or maybe in 1980 I saw film on the news where the SAS stormed the Iranian Embassy following the seige, and I thought WOW!!! I like guitars, but not very good at playing them, tho wanted to be musical so I've taken to the ukulele. I've got a somg book "Black Sabbath for Ukulele", tho none of the ukulele group seems to want to play hard rock/metal. I like beer, I prefer that to wine. Most of my book shelf seems to be Andy McNab , Cris Ryan and Tolkien , also books on D.I.Y, biographies, music and railways, and things with engines, some on military history. I do have a couple by Gok Wan How to Look Good Naked, and also Gok Cooks Chinese, oh yes and one by the Hairy Bikers, I love their recipies.

       

         

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  • I think I've learned that I can be female, but also enjoy more traditionally male interests.  I did know one dude he was into embroidery/cross stich, but then he was also into making and flying rockets. I'm not sure I'd like to become a man, tho it would be interesting if I could wake up a man, just to see what it was like,and if I didn't like it to wake up my female self. Tho putting myself through an op seems too permanent, it's not as if it can be reversed.
    Perhaps it was my mum that put doubts about my gender in my mind, with her comments "You should've been a boy". I know at infants school one day I ended up having to change out of my day clothes, maybe something got spilled or I was sick, and ended up wearing my PE shorts and this boy Kevin was calling me a boy, tho I thought and said to the teacher "But I;m a girl" and she said "JUst ignore him". I know when I worked at an old folks homeone day I saw Reg one of the residents naked I was trying not to laugh at the tiny size of his manhood, poor guy. I know I said to my friend Val who worked there that he doesn;t seem to have a hair on his body. Her theory was maybe his hormones/chromosones got confused, were they male or female.
    I did wonder, tho I felt the relationship with my mum was usually somewhat aloof, I know she said I was somewhat aloof, tho I felt she was often cold to me, as a kid  I often thought "Why don't you love me mummy/mum".  Perhaps I felt I was a dissapointment to her as she was so convinced I'd be a boy, so I did wonder should I try and become "Steven" which was going to be my name if I was a boy. I was also born 5-6 weeks early, tho a friend's daughter had a son who was 12 weeks early, but she connected with him. I know my mum blames my being born early on our relationship. I don't know if some females may be exposed to more testosterone in the womb and some males more estrogen, amd perhaps that's what gives these babies traditional interests of the opposite sex, if I was exposed to more testosterone then that might explain some of  my interests or why my mum thought I might be a boy.
    Yep I;m the same I'm quite interested in the military I don't know what started that off. perhaps a neighbour who was a national serviceman, and I thought he looked smart in his army uniform, or maybe in 1980 I saw film on the news where the SAS stormed the Iranian Embassy following the seige, and I thought WOW!!! I like guitars, but not very good at playing them, tho wanted to be musical so I've taken to the ukulele. I've got a somg book "Black Sabbath for Ukulele", tho none of the ukulele group seems to want to play hard rock/metal. I like beer, I prefer that to wine. Most of my book shelf seems to be Andy McNab , Cris Ryan and Tolkien , also books on D.I.Y, biographies, music and railways, and things with engines, some on military history. I do have a couple by Gok Wan How to Look Good Naked, and also Gok Cooks Chinese, oh yes and one by the Hairy Bikers, I love their recipies.

       

         

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