Any other gender diverse people here?

i think this counts as a special interest - of mine, anyway. I've met so many other people on the spectrum who are gender diverse in some way, and I'm always happy to connect.

By gender diverse I mean trans, intersex, genderqueer, gender questioning, agender, non-binary, and so on...

I'm genderless and trans female, I began transitioning six years ago in my 40s. Gender never really made any sense of my experience at all (though I have no problems with it working for other people), I just knew my body was supposed to be female, so I got it upcycled :-). I co-lead a non-binary support group in the South West, and kind of unofficially mentor younger trans and/or non-binary people, many of whom as I said are also on the spectrum.

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  • HI I seem to get confused by all these different genders, I think I did read that there were 37 in all. I think I've always believed I'm female at least physically, and also am hetero sexual, apart from a time as a teenager when maybe I had a crush on a female friend, tho I personally find the thought of me getting sexual with another woman EWWWW!!! However if others fancy the same sex I don't have a problem with that.

      I know as a kid I was never really into dolls and traditional female toys, I preferred train sets and Scalextric. I;ve never felt a strong urge to becone a mother (unless you count pets) . In terms of interests as an adult railways feature strongly, as does collecting, I especially like teddy bears (tho I do know of males who like bears) and vinyl records or CDs. I love Laurel and Hardy and Tolkien, and anything with an engine. Musically I tend to like Rock and Metal which seem to attract a more male audience. THo Bruce Dickinson from Iron Maiden said there's no reason why Rock/Metal should be so sexist. As a teen I wanted to be a train driver or join the RAF. I did work on the railway from leaving school 'til I got made redundant, tho haven't been able to get back on. I'm thinking that my ideal job would be in a museum, or checking out HGV driving (It was Fiona from Eddie Stobart Trucks & Trailers and Lisa & Mia from Ice Road Truckers planted that seed in my head) !!! 

    AS a kid I know my mum tried to get me doing more traditionally girly things such as sewing or knitting, but I seemed to gravitate more to my Dad's interests of railways and his model railway.  I think when my mum was pregnant with me she thought I was going to be a boy, I was going to be Steven, tho she said she hadn't thought of a girls name, and I turned out to be Louise. I know at times she has said "You should have been a boy" so maybe I took that to mean I wasn't really wanted as I was a girl. I did think shall I try and become "Steven" that I felt she wanted, tho I realised I could be Louise and like railway locomotives, and I don't need to try and change my female bits for male bits. I did feel a dissapointment to her as I turned out to be Louise.  I've always thought it would be ineteresting if I could wake up a man as if by magic one day, and then decide I could be female again without the need for surgery. Tho I don't think surgery can actually change your sex, and so when I thought should I become Steven, that it seems so much pain, and would I be doing it for me, or is it me trying to be what I think my mum wanted me to be.

            I've recently been diagnosed as having Aspergers, I've read that ASD folks can be confused about their gender, I wonder how that compares to folks ot on the spectrum!!!  

     

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  • HI I seem to get confused by all these different genders, I think I did read that there were 37 in all. I think I've always believed I'm female at least physically, and also am hetero sexual, apart from a time as a teenager when maybe I had a crush on a female friend, tho I personally find the thought of me getting sexual with another woman EWWWW!!! However if others fancy the same sex I don't have a problem with that.

      I know as a kid I was never really into dolls and traditional female toys, I preferred train sets and Scalextric. I;ve never felt a strong urge to becone a mother (unless you count pets) . In terms of interests as an adult railways feature strongly, as does collecting, I especially like teddy bears (tho I do know of males who like bears) and vinyl records or CDs. I love Laurel and Hardy and Tolkien, and anything with an engine. Musically I tend to like Rock and Metal which seem to attract a more male audience. THo Bruce Dickinson from Iron Maiden said there's no reason why Rock/Metal should be so sexist. As a teen I wanted to be a train driver or join the RAF. I did work on the railway from leaving school 'til I got made redundant, tho haven't been able to get back on. I'm thinking that my ideal job would be in a museum, or checking out HGV driving (It was Fiona from Eddie Stobart Trucks & Trailers and Lisa & Mia from Ice Road Truckers planted that seed in my head) !!! 

    AS a kid I know my mum tried to get me doing more traditionally girly things such as sewing or knitting, but I seemed to gravitate more to my Dad's interests of railways and his model railway.  I think when my mum was pregnant with me she thought I was going to be a boy, I was going to be Steven, tho she said she hadn't thought of a girls name, and I turned out to be Louise. I know at times she has said "You should have been a boy" so maybe I took that to mean I wasn't really wanted as I was a girl. I did think shall I try and become "Steven" that I felt she wanted, tho I realised I could be Louise and like railway locomotives, and I don't need to try and change my female bits for male bits. I did feel a dissapointment to her as I turned out to be Louise.  I've always thought it would be ineteresting if I could wake up a man as if by magic one day, and then decide I could be female again without the need for surgery. Tho I don't think surgery can actually change your sex, and so when I thought should I become Steven, that it seems so much pain, and would I be doing it for me, or is it me trying to be what I think my mum wanted me to be.

            I've recently been diagnosed as having Aspergers, I've read that ASD folks can be confused about their gender, I wonder how that compares to folks ot on the spectrum!!!  

     

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