I might have ASD and my wife wants a kid! Help!

I want to start off by saying my family is absolutely infested with autism. I might be too. My brother has it, so does my cousin and my uncle. No females have it as far as I know. But I have shown strong symptoms, but mildly if that makes sense. I have known there was this possibility for a long time. I am awkward but don't struggle socially if that also makes sense. Like my social skills are a bit bad, but people don't seem to care. Anyway, even if I don't have ASD I definitely have the gene. The trouble is my wife wants a kid now. We've been married for 5 years and I never told her this and I also never told her I ddn't want a kid because of this. I don't want to have kids because of the huge risk. I haven't told her about the autism in my family or anything. I have some questions. Is there any autism foetus screening to catch autism early in the pregnancy? If so, can it be corrected artificially? If not, how do I convince my wife not to have a kid? OR, I am happy to adopt or for her to have sperm donation but then again that would seem strange and I would need to convince her of a reason. I don't want to tell her about the autism in my family or that I might have it. perhaps I can say that I have a huge cancer risk gene? Any advice will be appreciated because I don't know what to do.

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  • Talk to your wife & tell her honestly how you feel.  This is less stressful then holding it all in. Or making up a lie.

     Autism is a different way of thinking not a disease !

     I hear that you wish to avoid some difficulties that may arise from having an autistic child.

    Don't feel guilty about this that's just the way you feel.  Perhaps take your wife out & discuss this over a nice meal.

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  • Talk to your wife & tell her honestly how you feel.  This is less stressful then holding it all in. Or making up a lie.

     Autism is a different way of thinking not a disease !

     I hear that you wish to avoid some difficulties that may arise from having an autistic child.

    Don't feel guilty about this that's just the way you feel.  Perhaps take your wife out & discuss this over a nice meal.

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