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Changes in life

Glass247

Basically my parents have both retired and I'm finding the changes a bit much.

I have aspergers and have suffered with depression and anxiety 

The thing that normally starts me going home is change. This seems like a massive change to have them both retired and be around

I'm 30 and work part time. I feel that life goes to fast at the moment

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  • Glass247, I had something like this when my brother came home from staying in the USA for 14 years. 

    Things were ok at first but then I found he was getting on my nerves because of certain habits of his, for example, clearing his throat a lot or cooking the Sunday meal (something that my mom had not done for some time) and the consequent smells and mess, plus other stuff I found very irritating. I even visted my GP with depression and was given (the inevitable) anti-depressents. 

    I realized that what was happening was that my normal routine was being changed which upset me terribly and the only thing which seemed to help was trying to look for things we had in common, such as talking about the news or shared interests and occassionally going out to play snooker or bowling.

    What made it worse was that he was unemployed for the best part of a year, which made things even harder as he was in the house most of the time.

    Things have, more or less, settled down into a predictable routine now and life is easier to deal with, so I suppose what I'm saying is that your best course might be to look for things that strengthen relationships within your family group and try to nurture a positive atmosphere because despite your routine being disrupted, there will evolve a new routine which you will eventually come to terms with.  

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  • Glass247, I had something like this when my brother came home from staying in the USA for 14 years. 

    Things were ok at first but then I found he was getting on my nerves because of certain habits of his, for example, clearing his throat a lot or cooking the Sunday meal (something that my mom had not done for some time) and the consequent smells and mess, plus other stuff I found very irritating. I even visted my GP with depression and was given (the inevitable) anti-depressents. 

    I realized that what was happening was that my normal routine was being changed which upset me terribly and the only thing which seemed to help was trying to look for things we had in common, such as talking about the news or shared interests and occassionally going out to play snooker or bowling.

    What made it worse was that he was unemployed for the best part of a year, which made things even harder as he was in the house most of the time.

    Things have, more or less, settled down into a predictable routine now and life is easier to deal with, so I suppose what I'm saying is that your best course might be to look for things that strengthen relationships within your family group and try to nurture a positive atmosphere because despite your routine being disrupted, there will evolve a new routine which you will eventually come to terms with.  

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