For those who know Classic Codger

Hi Pentadactyl,

I've just found your post and would like to thank you for taking the time to respond.

I understand just what you mean about him and am glad that you managed to feel a connection with him, the forum and it's contributors meant a great deal to him. He was really quite touched when you said he reminded you of his grandparents and took it as a compliment.

Mrs C

Dear Mrs Codger,

Sorry to bring this topic back to the fore, but I felt that I would also give my condolences.

I believe that I only had indirect communication with Classic Codger, however I was always entertained by his opinion (where it was not directed to help people). He seemed to ‘fit the bill’ as a ‘crochety grampa’ (or, at the very least, reminding me of my own grand-parents).

Additionally, with his significant life experience, he always seemed to manage to find something relevant, and helpful, to say to those in need (looking through the forum’s history, I’m sure you can see what I mean).

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts regarding the loss of CC.

During his last months I would read the discussions to him so he could keep up to date with what was being said, I can't begin to tell you his frustration at not being in a position to respond, but at least he could still feel part of the Community.

'Sox, you're right, you didn't always see eye to eye, but he always had a healthy respect for diversity and a good debate! I would also like to thank you for putting the link on CC's post as I've subsequently read messages on there that I would otherwise have missed.

I will continue to drop into the Forum to see who's doing what, during the time CC was contributing I was always an avid follower and truly believe all your contributions helped me to understand that unique man even more.

Regards,

MrsC

Hi KayakerCez,

It's good of you to come on and post at what must be a difficult time for you.  It's also good to know that it's a comfort for you that your Dad was held in such high esteem by so many.  I can remember being hesitant when I first joined the forum here, but CC put me at ease with his advice.

As to the diary, I only briefly kept one myself, for only a few weeks if I recall, so I may not be the best one to advise.  It was mainly a "this is what I did today" type of thing - do I understand rightly that your diary may be more of "this is what I was thinking of today" sort of thing?

What I did with my original diary was to keep it short and just summarise the day in a few sentences, so you might find that works for yourself.  Sometimes though, keeping things too brief can cause the meaning to be lost!

Perhaps somebody with more experience than me in this field can give better advice than I can, but I think that in the end, it's what you feel comfortable with that is the best way!

Thank you, and best wishes also to Mrs. Codger, hope she's keeping well.

Good old ClassicCodger. To hear the words that you've all written, shows me that my Dad made the same impretion on people here, that he did for so many of the people he had ever met and spoken with. It's truly humbling and comforting to know. You can be rest assured that everything that's heppened, has been on his terms and no-one else. mind over body.

CC and I have had many discussions about my own state of mind and he's encouraged my to start keeping a diary. Have any of you got experience with that, i'm thinking mostly in terms of layout and content. I feel it important to have a structure, or else it'll just end up as almost unreadable mayhem.

thanks

Dear Mrs Codger,

I was welcomed to the forum by CC.  He was a superb person.  I'm sorry that he won't be part of our group, I'm clumsy with words, but I want to say that our loss is heaven's gain.  HE was a clever man.

M.

I'm absolutely shocked to hear the news, please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss Mrs Codger. Although nothing in comparison to your loss, I do miss him on this forum. 

Random

I didn't really know him as I only joined a few months ago but I remember seeing his posts on here. 

Sorry to hear the sad news and hope you're keeping well Mrs Codger 

Sorry to hear of your loss and thank you for taking the time to log on here and let us know.

Dear Mrs Codger,

This is sad news and I can only offer you my sympathy. I had imagined that he had moved his interest elsewhere following the debates (on "curing" autism) that had caused him considerable distress.

I didn't always see eye to eye with him - as expected on an autism forum! - but he clearly cared deeply about it and he was dealing with it in his own way. His heart was very clearly in the right place.

Yours sincerely

'Sox

MrsCodger,

I had been wondering about Classic Codger's absence for weeks - in fact, I was going to ask recently if anyone knew any more.  I was therefore shocked to read that he's no longer with us.

Classic Codger was the first member of this forum to offer me some advice when I joined it, putting me at ease, and explaining how he had coped with diagnosis and it's aftermath.  I thoroughly enjoyed reading his posts, both his replies to my posts and to the many others he replied to.

One particular piece of advice he gave me early on was not to try to analyse things too much, so that when I go for my assessment, the psychologist will see me exactly as I am, and I have followed this advice since.  I will continue to do so as a tribute to him.

It's so good to hear that he really felt he belonged here - it must have been a great comfort to him, and indeed, to you.

When people leave us physically, they still stay with us in other ways - their humour, their ideas, all live on inside us, and can still be a joy for us, whenever we need them.

I would also add that, even at a sad time like this, you've been able to come onto the forum and let us know, and think all of us really appreciate that.  If you feel the need to talk, at any time in the future, hopefully you won't hesitate to come here and talk to us.  We can help support you just as Classic Codger did for so many of us.

Telstar