Heritability of autism

StephenHarris said:

I know it can be a gift, but for me it's been a curse. I've never had a girlfriend, I've had long bouts of unemployment and never felt 'normal'.

For me, it seems like I was born 'faulty' rather than 'different'. While I've stopped thinking about suicide, I've sometimes wished that someone would kill me to put me out of my misery.

I also fear that one day my 'stupidity' will end up killing someone.

I was diagnosed a couple of months ago - for the past 30 years of my life, I've felt I don't fit in without an explanation. I still sometimes think "I'm not autistic, I'm just thick" despite the evidence, as I leave yet another light on.

Do I want to inflict that on a child of mine? Especially when there are many kids waiting for adoption, we're adding 100 million people or so a year to this planet and the world is increasingly getting worse.

I suffer from many intrusive thoughts - I frequently find myself wishing an asteroid would wipe out this whole stupid human race. Brexit, Trump, Daesh, the lot... it's getting me very depressed.

It's a gift & a curse. There are aspects that are gifts a lot of people would love to have. But not everyone would want the cost that goes with it.

I've only ever had one boyfriend. It lasted a few months. He was from my college days & he may have had ASD too. That was 15 years ago. I found the attention way too intense. And I couldn't give him the physical relationship he wanted, so I left. 

At a young age I accepted I was too stupid to even learn to drive. Plus that I'd be a danger to others if I could. So I've never even driven a car.

There are plenty of days that I wish I was dead. And in all honesty I do feel like I'm only tolerating life for the sake of my daughter. If she weren't here I'm sure I'd have had a lethal not so accidental accident long ago.

I think a lot of people with political ideals that didn't go their way, feel so strongly that they wish the world would end too.

Remember that your personal view is not necessarily how your child would feel if they had ASD. My daughter doesn't have ASD. But she has little quirky actions that I can relate to doing as a child, yet she never saw them. I even used an anonymous internet sperm donor to have her. She has no father. But she's still glad to be alive.  

And in my experience with children's services they don't want children to be raised by us anyway. They assume those with ASD provide 'barely adequate' parenting. I wouldn't adopt & support the council's tradition of stealing children from perfectly good homes. Just so they can give them to those whose chosen lifestyle they approve of.

StephenHarris said:

I know it can be a gift, but for me it's been a curse. I've never had a girlfriend, I've had long bouts of unemployment and never felt 'normal'.

For me, it seems like I was born 'faulty' rather than 'different'. While I've stopped thinking about suicide, I've sometimes wished that someone would kill me to put me out of my misery.

I also fear that one day my 'stupidity' will end up killing someone.

I was diagnosed a couple of months ago - for the past 30 years of my life, I've felt I don't fit in without an explanation. I still sometimes think "I'm not autistic, I'm just thick" despite the evidence, as I leave yet another light on.

Do I want to inflict that on a child of mine? Especially when there are many kids waiting for adoption, we're adding 100 million people or so a year to this planet and the world is increasingly getting worse.

I suffer from many intrusive thoughts - I frequently find myself wishing an asteroid would wipe out this whole stupid human race. Brexit, Trump, Daesh, the lot... it's getting me very depressed.

It's a gift & a curse. There are aspects that are gifts a lot of people would love to have. But not everyone would want the cost that goes with it.

I've only ever had one boyfriend. It lasted a few months. He was from my college days & he may have had ASD too. That was 15 years ago. I found the attention way too intense. And I couldn't give him the physical relationship he wanted, so I left. 

At a young age I accepted I was too stupid to even learn to drive. Plus that I'd be a danger to others if I could. So I've never even driven a car.

There are plenty of days that I wish I was dead. And in all honesty I do feel like I'm only tolerating life for the sake of my daughter. If she weren't here I'm sure I'd have had a lethal not so accidental accident long ago.

I think a lot of people with political ideals that didn't go their way, feel so strongly that they wish the world would end too.

Remember that your personal view is not necessarily how your child would feel if they had ASD. My daughter doesn't have ASD. But she has little quirky actions that I can relate to doing as a child, yet she never saw them. I even used an anonymous internet sperm donor to have her. She has no father. But she's still glad to be alive.  

And in my experience with children's services they don't want children to be raised by us anyway. They assume those with ASD provide 'barely adequate' parenting. I wouldn't adopt & support the council's tradition of stealing children from perfectly good homes. Just so they can give them to those whose chosen lifestyle they approve of.