HELP! My son is being bullied.

sorry to hear that he sounds like an amazing boy. You just have to keep fighting his corner at school. Eventually they will get so fed up they will do something.  My son often gets isolated at school and as a parent its really hard to bear. I have even thought of home schooling but worried it will isolate him even more. Its good there are forums like this for sharing experiences. I dont know any parents of children with aspergers/ autism

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sorry to hear that he sounds like an amazing boy. You just have to keep fighting his corner at school. Eventually they will get so fed up they will do something.  My son often gets isolated at school and as a parent its really hard to bear. I have even thought of home schooling but worried it will isolate him even more. Its good there are forums like this for sharing experiences. I dont know any parents of children with aspergers/ autism

sorry to hear that he sounds like an amazing boy. You just have to keep fighting his corner at school. Eventually they will get so fed up they will do something.  My son often gets isolated at school and as a parent its really hard to bear. I have even thought of home schooling but worried it will isolate him even more. Its good there are forums like this for sharing experiences. I dont know any parents of children with aspergers/ autism

I had a difficult school life, it did ease down sometime from about when I was 13 years old. I was withdrawn, but got my head stuck in to the lessons as a kind of escape. I started the school as a low achiever, but left as one of the most promising students. I had an offer of full time job offer as a computer programmer in the early 80s, just before my sixteenth birthday, when it jobs were extremely rare.

There will always be people/kids who recognise that socially other people are lacking in social skills. Some of them play on this to differing degrees; I had tried to sort one bully out with help from my mother, by asking her to approach the parents, but that backfired when she mentioned it to my teachers.

Your son needs to try and avoid any confrontation as much as he can. Yes, clubs can be of help. That's the physical side, but bullies play on the emotional and mental side of things, that's a much tougher nut to crack.

Try and help him recognise that some people are not like they appear to be, the many different levels of friendship, and to be careful about kids who suddenly appear to be very friendly, when they have generally ignored or avoided him in the past.

Help him to express and share a few common interests with other children, I think that is what helped me.

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Thanks for suggestion. We're looking into clubs at the moment actually

Serious suggestion here. Have you thought about getting your lad into the local boxing or martial arts club (avoid Karate though,). Instills confidence, self discipline and gets you very fit. It'll also teach him how to handle himself, sometimes you need to fight fire with fire.

Thankyou for your message ! It's a newish school but he's also in his final year of primary - so on to secondary in September! The school do know he has Aspergers but I think his old school put more thought into how best to support him. 

Unfortunately he's caught the eye of a child with a very troubled life outside of school - so it's been a bit relentless lately, and his usual resilience to being 'a bit different' is wearing thin.

good chat with headteacher today though so hoping it resolves soon.

appreciate the reassuring words that he will go on to good things... and those kids are definitely not in the best place outside of school, so I reckon the future will have its challenges for them. My son is well loved and I really hope he makes good friends one day too

Thanks again :)

Hi, I was bullied in school as well, I was a shy skinny little runt of a kid who had very few friends. I enjoyed my own company and didn't really socialise or interact with others.

Fast forward a few years, those people that picked on me and made my life a misery, those "hip" kids are now all life's losers, either no jobs or in dead end jobs with no prospects. Take me as an example if you want, I've only just realised that it's highly likely that I have Aspergers, however, I joined the Army and became a Royal Engineer. A Bomb Disposal Engineer to be precise, then after that I was a Police officer for 10 years. Those kids who are picking on him now will probably end up the same way.

It's not nice being bullied, approach the school and explain the situation, are they aware that your boy has Aspergers? It's difficult, but tell him not to let them grind him down, THEY are the losers, where he will blossom into someone that has the potential to get on in life and be successful.