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Jadey

Hi everyone,

Im new to this site and just needed to talk to people who may have experience in this area. 

I have a brother who was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at the age of 5. He is now 17 and is going through the stage where he wants to experiment with smoking and drinking. My mum is tearing her hair out and is really worried about him. He has also been very interested in cars and from a very young age used to watch my dad fix cars. He has recently applied for a provisional licence however has not declared his disabilities as he is aware that he may not be able to drive. My mum is going to write to them and give them the information they need however, as horrible as it sounds, i really hope they wont allow him to drive. He has a terrible temper and can switch at any time turning violent. We are both so worried that he will put his own life at risk and of course others on the road. Has anybody had any experience with this as I would love to hear some suggestions.

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  • Hi,

    My son is 17 and i am having very similar issues with him as he seems to think he can do anything! and if i try and explain he just thinks its me stopping him and not his own difficulties. He has AS/Dyspraxia/hypotonia this means he has poor reflexes, poor balance, very bad spacial wareness etc, limited hazard awareness I could go on but you get my point. However he is also very clever, has developed excellent coping strategies for some social situations to the point many people dont realise it is a stratergy! He is doing well in college etc. So why oh why does he not understand his own physical limitations nd want to drive a car.

    His psych said she would be very suprised if the DLA would after assesment (something I wasnt aware they did) would alow him to hold a licence, so the best course of action as a parent was to let him go through assesment disclosing everything so that it was an offical person saying no to him. Maybe you could try that with your brother?

    good luck

    sam

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  • Hi,

    My son is 17 and i am having very similar issues with him as he seems to think he can do anything! and if i try and explain he just thinks its me stopping him and not his own difficulties. He has AS/Dyspraxia/hypotonia this means he has poor reflexes, poor balance, very bad spacial wareness etc, limited hazard awareness I could go on but you get my point. However he is also very clever, has developed excellent coping strategies for some social situations to the point many people dont realise it is a stratergy! He is doing well in college etc. So why oh why does he not understand his own physical limitations nd want to drive a car.

    His psych said she would be very suprised if the DLA would after assesment (something I wasnt aware they did) would alow him to hold a licence, so the best course of action as a parent was to let him go through assesment disclosing everything so that it was an offical person saying no to him. Maybe you could try that with your brother?

    good luck

    sam

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