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Jadey

Hi everyone,

Im new to this site and just needed to talk to people who may have experience in this area. 

I have a brother who was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at the age of 5. He is now 17 and is going through the stage where he wants to experiment with smoking and drinking. My mum is tearing her hair out and is really worried about him. He has also been very interested in cars and from a very young age used to watch my dad fix cars. He has recently applied for a provisional licence however has not declared his disabilities as he is aware that he may not be able to drive. My mum is going to write to them and give them the information they need however, as horrible as it sounds, i really hope they wont allow him to drive. He has a terrible temper and can switch at any time turning violent. We are both so worried that he will put his own life at risk and of course others on the road. Has anybody had any experience with this as I would love to hear some suggestions.

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  • Hi, thanks for your reply. You could literally be describing my brother! Everything in the house is smashed to pieces and as quickly as something is repaired its broken again. My mum is a single parent and obviously cant work so its hard to be able to pay for everything. He blames me and my mum for everything and says that if i wasnt born he wouldnt have autism ect ect. 

    He is over six foot and is very heavy handed so my mum finds it impossible to restrain him when he loses his temper. We are so so frightened about his future, wondering if he will ever be able to live alone or get a proper job. He often makes comments that he is going to steal a car if he's not allowed to drive and I am so worried about him ending up dead or in prison by the age of 20. We dont have much support from anybody and hardly speak to our social worker so it's nice to hear others stories and get some advice. 

    Thanks 

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  • Hi, thanks for your reply. You could literally be describing my brother! Everything in the house is smashed to pieces and as quickly as something is repaired its broken again. My mum is a single parent and obviously cant work so its hard to be able to pay for everything. He blames me and my mum for everything and says that if i wasnt born he wouldnt have autism ect ect. 

    He is over six foot and is very heavy handed so my mum finds it impossible to restrain him when he loses his temper. We are so so frightened about his future, wondering if he will ever be able to live alone or get a proper job. He often makes comments that he is going to steal a car if he's not allowed to drive and I am so worried about him ending up dead or in prison by the age of 20. We dont have much support from anybody and hardly speak to our social worker so it's nice to hear others stories and get some advice. 

    Thanks 

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