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Jadey

Hi everyone,

Im new to this site and just needed to talk to people who may have experience in this area. 

I have a brother who was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at the age of 5. He is now 17 and is going through the stage where he wants to experiment with smoking and drinking. My mum is tearing her hair out and is really worried about him. He has also been very interested in cars and from a very young age used to watch my dad fix cars. He has recently applied for a provisional licence however has not declared his disabilities as he is aware that he may not be able to drive. My mum is going to write to them and give them the information they need however, as horrible as it sounds, i really hope they wont allow him to drive. He has a terrible temper and can switch at any time turning violent. We are both so worried that he will put his own life at risk and of course others on the road. Has anybody had any experience with this as I would love to hear some suggestions.

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  • My brother-in-Law is 25 and since he turned 18, he is every bit like your brother. Lee just wants to be and do everything his older brother (my husband) does. He constantly gets into aggresive rages where he will smash up his home - literally smash it up. My mother-in-laws house is full of punched through holes in the walls, smashed up doors. He has smashed up and punched through numerous TV sets all because he can't do what his brother does i.e. date girls, drive a car, join the army etc. He goes down to the local army careers office and gets himself application forms and because the army careers office give him the forms, he thinks its all my mother-in-laws fault that he can't join. He thinks that she is going out of her way to stop him from being like everyone else and that she is schemeing to ruin his life. He thinks that it's all down to her that he can't be like his brother. He refuses to accept that he's autistic and will not have anything to do with other people with special needs as he doesn't consider them to be proper humans.

    My mother-in-law has asked the GP for a referral to a couseler specialised in ASD to help Lee understand and accept his autism as only then will he be able to be happy and move forward in life.

    Maybe you could ask for the same referral and see if the counseler could help your brother deal with his autism and how it effects his life.

    Good luck.

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  • My brother-in-Law is 25 and since he turned 18, he is every bit like your brother. Lee just wants to be and do everything his older brother (my husband) does. He constantly gets into aggresive rages where he will smash up his home - literally smash it up. My mother-in-laws house is full of punched through holes in the walls, smashed up doors. He has smashed up and punched through numerous TV sets all because he can't do what his brother does i.e. date girls, drive a car, join the army etc. He goes down to the local army careers office and gets himself application forms and because the army careers office give him the forms, he thinks its all my mother-in-laws fault that he can't join. He thinks that she is going out of her way to stop him from being like everyone else and that she is schemeing to ruin his life. He thinks that it's all down to her that he can't be like his brother. He refuses to accept that he's autistic and will not have anything to do with other people with special needs as he doesn't consider them to be proper humans.

    My mother-in-law has asked the GP for a referral to a couseler specialised in ASD to help Lee understand and accept his autism as only then will he be able to be happy and move forward in life.

    Maybe you could ask for the same referral and see if the counseler could help your brother deal with his autism and how it effects his life.

    Good luck.

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