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Worried about tomorrow

Rach91

Hi everyone I been makeing a few posts about events that have been happening through out the week and last night after  in contact with my boyfriend i told him  don't want us to split up and I want us to start again. Tomorrow i'm meeting and he should have made his mind up by then about our future. I got  good feeling that we still have a chance but I'm also worried that we might not. Right now I'm a nervous reck and well i have asperges syndrome I also suffer from anxiety and depression. Any thoughts about this thanks. 

  • I hope it works out well for you too. Writing things down beforehand was really good advice. I don't know how others feel, but, sometimes I have a tendency to react before I think(something which has often gone in the other direction, making me overthink everything, too), so running through what you might say beforehand is good advice.

    After you meet, I hope you get the answers you want, but, I promise you, life does go on. Not sure if it helps, but I hope it goes well for you both.

  • Maybe you could spend some time today writing down what you want to say to him, just to get it clear in your head ready for tomorrow?

    It might help to think about what you want for the future and how you think you can achieve this with him, and how you're going to convince him that you are determined to try to make it work. 

    When you meet him,  remember to listen to him and encourage him to tell you what he wants too. He will also be nervous, and probably gets stressed when things go wrong between you. Try to keep things calm. 

    You could think about how you'll react if he decides he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and try to think of ways of dealing with this without having a meltdown - I understand that it will be difficult if that happens and I'm not sure how you react when you feel rejected,  but it's likely that you either get angry or run away. You could consider writing a note to him which you can keep handy in your bag or pocket,  and if you start to become too stressed and know you're heading for a meltdown you could just give this to him and walk away. The note could explain that you can't cope with a face to face situation at the moment, but you want to stay friends and keep in touch by text and email and you hope he'll change his mind so you can be together again as you really miss him. This would hopefully show how much you care about him and how you are really trying to make things work.

    Good luck and I hope it works out well. 

    Pixie