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My recently diagnosed 4 year old son

Christine68

Hello,

My name is Christine and my son was recently diagnosed with ASD. I am wondering if anybody can advise me on the following.  My son seems to be getting worst as he moves through school. Things like obsessing over what shoes he wears where as i didnt have this problem before. He has also become extremely uncooperative and sometimes quite agressive towards me when I try to comfort or control him.

 

I am getting a bit worried about the future and wonder if anybody else has experienced the same things?

  • Hi Suki.

     

    Your advice was very helpful and makes complete sense. I have recently moved him to a much quieter and understanding school. There are 13 in his class accross 3 years instead of 25 just at reception age, so I believe this will make a massive difference once we have got him settled. Its hard not to take it personal sometimes and you just have to try and put yourself in their shoes don't you. Not easy.

     

    Thanks again,

     

    Christine

  • Hi Christine,

    I think this type of problem is common, as children on the spectrum experience an increasing degree of discomfort within the school environment, which they find overwhelming.  The result is high stress levels, which often leads to uncooperative and obsessional behaviour.

    Our children usually have different sensory responses to one or more senses.  You may have noticed that your son is over/under stimulated by noise, smell, light, taste or touch, or a combination of these.  He is therefore having to work extra hard to filter out distractions all day at school, as well as struggling with social and communication challenges.

    As a result of being required to comply in this difficult (for him) environment, he seeks to take more control of the situation for himself; hence the uncooperative behaviour, aggression and obsessions.

    My experience has been that it is very difficult to address these challenges within a school environment.  My child had similar issues at school and we finally took him out of school for a couple of years to lower his stress levels and help him to feel comfortable within the safe environment of home, where it's possible to modify the sensory environment.  There is a lot you can do to help, if you are able to make the time.  There is some really helpful advice and approaches on the autismtreatmentcenter.org website which you might like to take a look at.

    I hope this helps,

    Suki

  • Hi Christine

    Thanks for posting and welcome to the forum. I have posted a link below on understanding  behaviour.

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx

    It may help you to understand how your son is feeling and therefore his reactions to situations.  I hope this helps but if there is anything further youcreed help with please let us know

    Colincat