Having relationships and living with Asperges

Does anyone else have real trouble ending relationships that you know have run there course ? I'm 20 and have Asperges and have grown very attached to someone however the relationship is making me unhappy and I'm terrified of the change that the the break up will cause . I'm worried I won't know how to cope . I'm still secretly self harming too, and having melt downs regularly . I've tried to get help through the nhs however it's very slow (understandably, there very busy). Can anyone suggest coping techniques? 

has anyone got any experience of having fluxotine and how it's made them feel ? I feel so lost and broken