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AS people, please can you help me?

classic codger

I am trying, with great difficulty, to understand something. I could really use your help with this, it's literaly taken me over (you know the one) and I need the thinking of others. Call it an intervention!

Before I begin, please can I ask you to look over the following article?;

nymag.com/.../

I have seen many posts from NT parents about 'treatment' for AS.

The question I have asked myself is, 'if I could go back and be changed into an NT by 'treatment', would I choose it?'

My firm answer is 'No'. I am the sum total of a life spent as an AS person. I can't change my past, so my best option is to use the learning that is  'the sum of who I am' to help others if I can, and especially for the next generation. If any of you think that I can be helpful and supportive, understanding and insightful, fine. If you think the opposite, also fine and I am sorry that I wasn't helpful. I do what everyone does - the best I can.

I'm an egalitarian by instinct. I will state my thoughts and opinions, but they are mine alone. When I read other people's posts, I assume the right to agree or disagree, and simply expect the same fairness back.

Thank you for listening this far, and now I've come to my taxing absorption.

I read this post under the title Stem cell treatment for autism: 'Has anyone undergone stem cell treatment for autism?'

I responded with '

This is my personal opinion. I don't argue my personal opinions, just for them.

How about 'tretament' for being NT? Their capacity for being the most illogical, spiteful, self-destructive creature on this planet leaves me staggered. I pity the poor creatures and their lack of insight, but what can you do? No-one is researching 'treatment' for them, because they collectively agree that their unsanity is 'normal'.

The inmates are running the asylum.

Now, I thought that I was humourously disparaging the idea of 'treating' people just because they are different. It is my belief that most people will be able to see that I have reiterated the concepts of the same thing as the poster, with our roles reversed. Here's your mirror, as it were.
I just discovered that I got moderated for this post . Apparently, I should watch my language. A particular word picked out is asylum because it is derrogatory towards past attitudes to mental health (?).
I am totaly confused. I don't know why 'mental health' is being brought into it. Given the various current uses of the word 'asylum' I don't know how it becomes offensive, even in context, 'the inmates are running the asylum' is a common concept and has been the root idea behind several award winning books, plays and films, yet it appears that some ignoramus doesn't like it. And apparently, I'm supposed to know this and understand it in their particular case. Que?
Please, any insights will do. Sooner or later one of you will say something that will help me get a grip on this. You know the one where the more you try, the more you're shaking your head, you're laughing bleakly, you don't know whether to be angry, offended, confused, puch drunk, weakened, disempowered, desperate to understand, shocked, fed up with mods public messages yet again, privacy invaded, and a whole bunch more, and because you can't choose one, you have them all at once instead. That's where I am right now.
Phew! Bit of a maze. Ariadne, the thread!
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  • Glad to hear you are well CC - you of all of us have had the worst treatment.

    I'm leaving too. I'm sorry to let others down, but I just cannot carry on with this. No-one should be expected to answer all the pleas for help and then have to mind their Ps and Qs and not be allowed to help each other for fear of implying cricisim of the administration.

    I will continue to do all I can for adult autism, but not through NAS, and I am not renewing my subscription. I will try to explain why below (but it may not be published - let's face it they've only just told me my suspension is lifted).

    As you will have gathered I was put into pre-moderation last Friday 5th Feb on account of the post I made at 10.52. I think everyone here has a right to know their reasons as it impacts on all of us.

    "the decision to put your account into pre-moderation was taken because of a complaint by another member around derogatory terms which had been used either towards or about her and which we needed to review" and "the language which you used (and we accept you meant no offence by it) was offensive to her, and she felt publicly demeaned by it"

    I've asked how I did so but have had no response. The outcome of my complaint to the Director was swiftly resolved that there had been no fault in the administration and I behaved badly.

    I replied that there is no point in my struggling on with this; it isn't a forum any more.They have replied they are sorry I have chosen to leave the community.

    They also said the community has been operating very well within these parameters, for five years. News to me. The trouble only started a few months ago.

    My heartfelt thanks to everyone with whom I have shared this forum past and present. I hope it recovers and goes from strength to strength, though I admire anyone who can cope with the new rules. I cannot.

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  • Glad to hear you are well CC - you of all of us have had the worst treatment.

    I'm leaving too. I'm sorry to let others down, but I just cannot carry on with this. No-one should be expected to answer all the pleas for help and then have to mind their Ps and Qs and not be allowed to help each other for fear of implying cricisim of the administration.

    I will continue to do all I can for adult autism, but not through NAS, and I am not renewing my subscription. I will try to explain why below (but it may not be published - let's face it they've only just told me my suspension is lifted).

    As you will have gathered I was put into pre-moderation last Friday 5th Feb on account of the post I made at 10.52. I think everyone here has a right to know their reasons as it impacts on all of us.

    "the decision to put your account into pre-moderation was taken because of a complaint by another member around derogatory terms which had been used either towards or about her and which we needed to review" and "the language which you used (and we accept you meant no offence by it) was offensive to her, and she felt publicly demeaned by it"

    I've asked how I did so but have had no response. The outcome of my complaint to the Director was swiftly resolved that there had been no fault in the administration and I behaved badly.

    I replied that there is no point in my struggling on with this; it isn't a forum any more.They have replied they are sorry I have chosen to leave the community.

    They also said the community has been operating very well within these parameters, for five years. News to me. The trouble only started a few months ago.

    My heartfelt thanks to everyone with whom I have shared this forum past and present. I hope it recovers and goes from strength to strength, though I admire anyone who can cope with the new rules. I cannot.

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