New Employer - best way to disclose ASD diagnosis

I agree with CC that HR should be the place to start. My experience of HR has, however been varied with some people in HR being excellent practitioners who do the job because that is their vocation. Others are doing the job because they are unable to do anything else. Some HR departments are just clerical groups that keep records and make sure that people get paid. I would advise caution and not to expect to find any best practice.

I am interested to explore Longman's thoughts on the triad. Every mention of it brings objections that I don't really understand.

The original poster states "I unfortunately got fired from my last job due to some communication difficulties". This lines up with the communication issues in the triad. My experience in my previous job was that I did not understand what was being communicated to me and people did not understand what I was communicating to them. I was unable to sense the emotions (anger, impatience, personal likes and dislikes etc) in my colleagues and managers. It degenrated into shouting and throwing of objects in the office!

I mentioned Reasonable Adjustments because some allowance can help one survive in a role. I am allowed to use noise cancelling headphones, my manager understands that it can help if he writes things down for me. More flexibility is tolerated if I want to take 5 minutes out in the quiet if I am willing to put time in at other times to make up. None of these resolve my difficulties entirely but they do help. Anything that reduces the tension and friction is welcome but it won't ever fix my problems. They can make the job more bearable and it can allow me to get on with my work and be productive rather than be continually distracted and irritated by the environment. The social model doesn't fix me but it can make the environment more congenial for me.

A step beyond Reasonable Adjustments comes with specific training of both sides in schemes like Access to Work. Training and education of both sides can help each side to understand what planet the other person is on. As a person with ASD it is like being on a different planet. That means that I am on a different planet but so is my manager on a different planet compared to me! We both need to understand that the other has a different perspective and understanding of how to work together. We won't ever change our inner traits and become a native of the other planet but we can at least understand why we are different.

I agree with CC that HR should be the place to start. My experience of HR has, however been varied with some people in HR being excellent practitioners who do the job because that is their vocation. Others are doing the job because they are unable to do anything else. Some HR departments are just clerical groups that keep records and make sure that people get paid. I would advise caution and not to expect to find any best practice.

I am interested to explore Longman's thoughts on the triad. Every mention of it brings objections that I don't really understand.

The original poster states "I unfortunately got fired from my last job due to some communication difficulties". This lines up with the communication issues in the triad. My experience in my previous job was that I did not understand what was being communicated to me and people did not understand what I was communicating to them. I was unable to sense the emotions (anger, impatience, personal likes and dislikes etc) in my colleagues and managers. It degenrated into shouting and throwing of objects in the office!

I mentioned Reasonable Adjustments because some allowance can help one survive in a role. I am allowed to use noise cancelling headphones, my manager understands that it can help if he writes things down for me. More flexibility is tolerated if I want to take 5 minutes out in the quiet if I am willing to put time in at other times to make up. None of these resolve my difficulties entirely but they do help. Anything that reduces the tension and friction is welcome but it won't ever fix my problems. They can make the job more bearable and it can allow me to get on with my work and be productive rather than be continually distracted and irritated by the environment. The social model doesn't fix me but it can make the environment more congenial for me.

A step beyond Reasonable Adjustments comes with specific training of both sides in schemes like Access to Work. Training and education of both sides can help each side to understand what planet the other person is on. As a person with ASD it is like being on a different planet. That means that I am on a different planet but so is my manager on a different planet compared to me! We both need to understand that the other has a different perspective and understanding of how to work together. We won't ever change our inner traits and become a native of the other planet but we can at least understand why we are different.