We didn't arrive on this forum through our tact and diplomacy. We have limited ability to see each others' points of view, we tend to be somewhat rigid in our thinking.
The forum is useful and it would be a shame to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Everyone could perhaps examine the moral high ground they are standing on and try (hard) to think if the other side has a point of view. The mods and myself and everyone have to do this from time to time. We all manage to say the wrong thing from time to time, we constantly turn molehills into mountains and the result is that the forum tends to be combative and bad tempered at times.
Longman, there is perhaps a grain oif truth in what the moderators have said. You have been overwhelmed, it appears to me, by the hopeless state of affairs in providing for autistic people. It seems hopeles and pointless but that tells me that we should fight on, examine what we are doing, change and adapt our tactics to make progress rather than complain about the futility of it. If everything seems pointless and futile then it tells me that you have lost your optimism and perhaps need to rethink.
Mods: I think that some of the criticism has a grain of truth behind it. Some of the input from the mods is not tailored to the situation and there have been occasions where I have wondered if the standard email template for situation X has actually helped. Also responding with authority and stamping down on transgressions won't work with a bunch of autistic people who are disrespectful of such an approach. It can just make things worse.
CC: this doesn't have to be a battle of us against anyone. How do you think the mods felt when you used the language you used? They are trying to do a difficult job and didn't get where they are by their diplomacy.
Electra, I agree that Longman shouldn't go. There is no need for anyone to leave and nobody wants anyone to leave. That is actually the easy option. It is perhaps harder to actually stay and make it work but that is perhaps the better response.
None of this is ad hominem, I may be critical of what people say but I don't think anyone has been bad. Longman has a wealth of knowledge and experience, we all have experience to contribute and help each other with. Can we get back to the business of helping each other?
Please?
We didn't arrive on this forum through our tact and diplomacy. We have limited ability to see each others' points of view, we tend to be somewhat rigid in our thinking.
The forum is useful and it would be a shame to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Everyone could perhaps examine the moral high ground they are standing on and try (hard) to think if the other side has a point of view. The mods and myself and everyone have to do this from time to time. We all manage to say the wrong thing from time to time, we constantly turn molehills into mountains and the result is that the forum tends to be combative and bad tempered at times.
Longman, there is perhaps a grain oif truth in what the moderators have said. You have been overwhelmed, it appears to me, by the hopeless state of affairs in providing for autistic people. It seems hopeles and pointless but that tells me that we should fight on, examine what we are doing, change and adapt our tactics to make progress rather than complain about the futility of it. If everything seems pointless and futile then it tells me that you have lost your optimism and perhaps need to rethink.
Mods: I think that some of the criticism has a grain of truth behind it. Some of the input from the mods is not tailored to the situation and there have been occasions where I have wondered if the standard email template for situation X has actually helped. Also responding with authority and stamping down on transgressions won't work with a bunch of autistic people who are disrespectful of such an approach. It can just make things worse.
CC: this doesn't have to be a battle of us against anyone. How do you think the mods felt when you used the language you used? They are trying to do a difficult job and didn't get where they are by their diplomacy.
Electra, I agree that Longman shouldn't go. There is no need for anyone to leave and nobody wants anyone to leave. That is actually the easy option. It is perhaps harder to actually stay and make it work but that is perhaps the better response.
None of this is ad hominem, I may be critical of what people say but I don't think anyone has been bad. Longman has a wealth of knowledge and experience, we all have experience to contribute and help each other with. Can we get back to the business of helping each other?
Please?
