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Really struggling to make people laugh :(

AspieJimmy

Hi

I am 24 and have been diagnosed with ASD since I was 5. I would class myself as high functioning. I've been to uni and I have a job.

I really struggle to make people laugh and I find it very hard to get into focusing on and understanding jokes in conversations. This makes me feel very upset a lot as I can't make people laugh. It's only my cheekyside which makes my gf laugh. It makes me find it so hard to settle in at work. 

How do you think I should approach humour and trying to make others laugh? I'd say 2% of the time I actually make others laugh. I've had this issue with making others laugh all my life. I try and be playful and joking but people always take me seriously.

Please help!

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  • Sorry to hear your misserable because your struggling to make people laugh- we all have different personalities and sometimes it's best to write a list of your other strenghts and stick it up where you can read it and remind yourself of your strengths everyday.

    If you think of all the different jobs in the world- you don't see Dr's,lawyers,dentists, going to work to make each other laugh- it's usually class clown types that just going around trying to be a laugh a minute-this can be counterpreductive. So i'd try and concentrate on relaxing and being yourself.  People don't usually need to go around having a laugh/joke often. I know it's hard with autism related issues, but if you don't understand a joke in a conversation-just try and celebrate your uniqueness and think of your strong points.

    I wouldn't focus on trying to make people laugh-i'd just be myself. Maybe try self disclosure instead of joking- when you first meet people, just stay on polite chat/topics-weather, hobbies,ask questions like do they go to the gym-just friendly chat-then self disclosure moves on to more important talk, if you spend more time with them, then proper friendships develop, focus on asking questions/simple topics to join in, instead of focusing on being all joky.

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  • Sorry to hear your misserable because your struggling to make people laugh- we all have different personalities and sometimes it's best to write a list of your other strenghts and stick it up where you can read it and remind yourself of your strengths everyday.

    If you think of all the different jobs in the world- you don't see Dr's,lawyers,dentists, going to work to make each other laugh- it's usually class clown types that just going around trying to be a laugh a minute-this can be counterpreductive. So i'd try and concentrate on relaxing and being yourself.  People don't usually need to go around having a laugh/joke often. I know it's hard with autism related issues, but if you don't understand a joke in a conversation-just try and celebrate your uniqueness and think of your strong points.

    I wouldn't focus on trying to make people laugh-i'd just be myself. Maybe try self disclosure instead of joking- when you first meet people, just stay on polite chat/topics-weather, hobbies,ask questions like do they go to the gym-just friendly chat-then self disclosure moves on to more important talk, if you spend more time with them, then proper friendships develop, focus on asking questions/simple topics to join in, instead of focusing on being all joky.

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