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Have had a really rough week, and had a big crisis Today I am extremely upset about.

I booked this week on holiday for relaxation I was desperate for after a works trip to France a few weeks back, followed by another couple of weekend of stressful trips in new places.

On tuesday I opened a letter from a pension I have, informing me of a loss in a pension fund I was sure I didn't have. Letter was vague, I really paniced as I already have two other pension problems I am fighting, I had started to get financial ombudsman involved. It just got too much for me, and I put them on hold, and was planning to pick them up again next week after this break.

I got really severly down, fortunately a member of the autism diagnostic team helped me to sort through my papers so I could tie down what happened. It turns out letter was wrong, I also phoned pension company and had to wait for the figures, the figures they gave me shows a massive loss over £20k, but I am fairly confident their figures are incorrect.

Have slowly been able to pick up the pieces, but discovered this Morning a music event which literally has beem a dream to go to was on last night, and what's more I was lucky enough to get a free pair of tickets from a random draw. I am absolutely devastated I missed this. I bought an expensive ticket to one of the gigs in stadium, but I dont really like these gigs, much prefer smaller venue, and the seat I got is a very poor seat.

I can only blame myself, for not checking the date, I thought it was later this month. I feel so gutted I have decided not to go the stadium gig I have paid for.

Similar thing happened last week off, tickets had sold out for a gig, spent hours for months finding a spare ticket. Had a crisis just before the event, and found an email just minutes too late to catch the last train for the gig, a ticket someone had kindly offered. I vowed after that to keep on the ball when I have these crises to avoid anything like that happening again.

I just feel life wants to keep kicking me at every opportunity possible, I spend a massive amount of time to try and arrange things so I can avoid life getting an opportunity to strike again. Just don't know how to deal with this, I try and talk to my Father, but he just does not get how bad this affects me, and always brushes off what the problem is; its a different reaction when he has a problem with something.

Really have had enough of letting life just keep kicking me down the road time and time again

 

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  • Thanks for your reply, I don't know my Diagnosis was made about 10 months after it was first mentioned to me. I thought I most probably have aspergers about 9 months before diagnosis, so had researched about it. I was expecting the diagnosis to be positive, but have been very surprised about how wide reaching the condition has on my life.

    Not sure about my Father, I have noticed OCD and depression. He often spoke of my Grandads depression, and how at times he looked at him and he appeared lifeless, and recognised the same with me, so don't think he has experienced depression to the same depth; Socially he has absolutely no problems. He often tramples all over other peoples feelings, when discussing this he fully understands but simply does not care, just selfish.

    Have been wondering recently if he has aspergers or same traits. He treated my mother very badly, my mother passed away in 2003, my father has a new partner for the past couple of years, and the way he treats her is like the difference between night and day. I think that goes a long way to rule out aspergers or similar traits being the cause of the treatment my mother suffered.

    I have decided that I am not going to tell him about my Aspergers.

    Think you are right about being down after the diagnosis, I am finding it hard. I think that is down in to digging up a lot that has happened in the past for the diagnosis. A lot of bad stuff that I had pushed to one side for many years, that was the only way I could deal with it. I had hoped there would be some support to help me with that, I maybe getting some, but has been a long slog and wait

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  • Thanks for your reply, I don't know my Diagnosis was made about 10 months after it was first mentioned to me. I thought I most probably have aspergers about 9 months before diagnosis, so had researched about it. I was expecting the diagnosis to be positive, but have been very surprised about how wide reaching the condition has on my life.

    Not sure about my Father, I have noticed OCD and depression. He often spoke of my Grandads depression, and how at times he looked at him and he appeared lifeless, and recognised the same with me, so don't think he has experienced depression to the same depth; Socially he has absolutely no problems. He often tramples all over other peoples feelings, when discussing this he fully understands but simply does not care, just selfish.

    Have been wondering recently if he has aspergers or same traits. He treated my mother very badly, my mother passed away in 2003, my father has a new partner for the past couple of years, and the way he treats her is like the difference between night and day. I think that goes a long way to rule out aspergers or similar traits being the cause of the treatment my mother suffered.

    I have decided that I am not going to tell him about my Aspergers.

    Think you are right about being down after the diagnosis, I am finding it hard. I think that is down in to digging up a lot that has happened in the past for the diagnosis. A lot of bad stuff that I had pushed to one side for many years, that was the only way I could deal with it. I had hoped there would be some support to help me with that, I maybe getting some, but has been a long slog and wait

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