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Have had a really rough week, and had a big crisis Today I am extremely upset about.

I booked this week on holiday for relaxation I was desperate for after a works trip to France a few weeks back, followed by another couple of weekend of stressful trips in new places.

On tuesday I opened a letter from a pension I have, informing me of a loss in a pension fund I was sure I didn't have. Letter was vague, I really paniced as I already have two other pension problems I am fighting, I had started to get financial ombudsman involved. It just got too much for me, and I put them on hold, and was planning to pick them up again next week after this break.

I got really severly down, fortunately a member of the autism diagnostic team helped me to sort through my papers so I could tie down what happened. It turns out letter was wrong, I also phoned pension company and had to wait for the figures, the figures they gave me shows a massive loss over £20k, but I am fairly confident their figures are incorrect.

Have slowly been able to pick up the pieces, but discovered this Morning a music event which literally has beem a dream to go to was on last night, and what's more I was lucky enough to get a free pair of tickets from a random draw. I am absolutely devastated I missed this. I bought an expensive ticket to one of the gigs in stadium, but I dont really like these gigs, much prefer smaller venue, and the seat I got is a very poor seat.

I can only blame myself, for not checking the date, I thought it was later this month. I feel so gutted I have decided not to go the stadium gig I have paid for.

Similar thing happened last week off, tickets had sold out for a gig, spent hours for months finding a spare ticket. Had a crisis just before the event, and found an email just minutes too late to catch the last train for the gig, a ticket someone had kindly offered. I vowed after that to keep on the ball when I have these crises to avoid anything like that happening again.

I just feel life wants to keep kicking me at every opportunity possible, I spend a massive amount of time to try and arrange things so I can avoid life getting an opportunity to strike again. Just don't know how to deal with this, I try and talk to my Father, but he just does not get how bad this affects me, and always brushes off what the problem is; its a different reaction when he has a problem with something.

Really have had enough of letting life just keep kicking me down the road time and time again

 

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  • Former Member
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    Hi Random,

    Life after diagnosis has been a roller coaster for me. I was diagnosed (at 56) 18 months ago and I think I am only now getting myself a bit more sorted. Diagnosis often follows a really chaotic low point (certainly for me) and it is a big shock to come to terms with. I'm guessing that the turmoil that precipitated diagnosis may not have settled yet?

    Don't be too hard on yourself - what's to be gained by beating yourself up?

    You mention that your father isn't much help. Do you think that he is affected too? I realised after my diagnosis that my own father had been affected as I began to recognise that his idiosyncracies were consistent with the condition but it is now, sadly, too late to do anything about that.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi Random,

    Life after diagnosis has been a roller coaster for me. I was diagnosed (at 56) 18 months ago and I think I am only now getting myself a bit more sorted. Diagnosis often follows a really chaotic low point (certainly for me) and it is a big shock to come to terms with. I'm guessing that the turmoil that precipitated diagnosis may not have settled yet?

    Don't be too hard on yourself - what's to be gained by beating yourself up?

    You mention that your father isn't much help. Do you think that he is affected too? I realised after my diagnosis that my own father had been affected as I began to recognise that his idiosyncracies were consistent with the condition but it is now, sadly, too late to do anything about that.

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