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Need advice as have concerns about my daughter.

Modgiemoo

Hi, I thought I'd come here to ask for advice from other parents.  My eldest daughter is 8 yrs old, she will be 9 in Feb.  She  has had no particular health problems, in fact pretty robust constitution. there are a few things however, which cause me concern and have tempted me to question if she has some form of autism.  The biggest thing is her lack of progress in reading/spelling/writing in school as compared to her peers.  We have had her eyesight checked and her hearing checked.  In 2009 her hearing test showed below normal but just recently it was fine.  Since nursery she has chewed/eaten non food stuffs, plastic pegs, paper, chalk, bluetack etc, her favorite being paper.  I have watched her deliberately seek out or go for paper and sneak a tear off and either conceal it or put it in her mouth, (if she thinks no-one has noticed). She acts very immature compared to her peers, she will make strange noises, does funny moves and becomes quite hyper.  She doesn't play games with us as a family in the same way her little sister does.  Her younger sister focuses, pays attention and works out the strategy, DD1 doesn't sit still, always fidgeting.  She is very easily distracted, very giggly, tends to have wetting accidents when laughing.  I have made an appointment to have her assessed at Jordan's Eyes in Ayr, partly to rule out dyslexia or the need for colored lenses, but they also look at the autistic spectrum.  Regardless of the outcome I just want to know we are doing all we can for her.  I'd appreciate anyone's views/thoughts on this.

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  • Hi there Modgiemoo,

    Just to reassure you that, as Longman says, we do care, but may not have pat answers for you. I do remember. though. how awful the wait was before an appointment, and wondering how to speed things along. That was 25 years ago!! Our son ate everything he could lay his hands on, even once a glass full of used fat drained off from frying pan etc! We couldn't understand why he did these things, and only got a diagnosis of autism on paying privately when he was 10, by which time we were desperate.

    I understand from other people that things have got a lot better since the 80s/90s. but do not hesitate to document all the things you've mentioned and your questions. Make sure they answer your questions satisfactorily. as we have since realised that we should have pushed for the right help much more. It IS out there, your daughter deserves to have her needs met, and you need reassurance and a helping hand to be able to make sense of it all. Living and bringing up a child with particular challenges is really hard at times, and can demoralise and tire you out. Like every parent you are trying to do your best and need some guidance from professionals, so do not be fobbed off. We so often were. in hindsight. The persistence will and does pay off! Our family is living proof of it: We eventually got our needs met and are all the better for it. Good luck! 

      

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  • Hi there Modgiemoo,

    Just to reassure you that, as Longman says, we do care, but may not have pat answers for you. I do remember. though. how awful the wait was before an appointment, and wondering how to speed things along. That was 25 years ago!! Our son ate everything he could lay his hands on, even once a glass full of used fat drained off from frying pan etc! We couldn't understand why he did these things, and only got a diagnosis of autism on paying privately when he was 10, by which time we were desperate.

    I understand from other people that things have got a lot better since the 80s/90s. but do not hesitate to document all the things you've mentioned and your questions. Make sure they answer your questions satisfactorily. as we have since realised that we should have pushed for the right help much more. It IS out there, your daughter deserves to have her needs met, and you need reassurance and a helping hand to be able to make sense of it all. Living and bringing up a child with particular challenges is really hard at times, and can demoralise and tire you out. Like every parent you are trying to do your best and need some guidance from professionals, so do not be fobbed off. We so often were. in hindsight. The persistence will and does pay off! Our family is living proof of it: We eventually got our needs met and are all the better for it. Good luck! 

      

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