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refusal to go to school

RosieF

My boy, 14 with asperger has just gone back to school into year 10, a mainstream school with ASC provision. 

From Easter (year 9) we were starting to get refusals to going to certain lessons, we thought this was because these were not his choosen options for year 10 and he no long saw the point of them - okay that seemed fair enough.  Then he stopped going to learning support - refusal to go into the room and preferred to stand in corridors.  A TAF was opened lots of meetings without any real progress.

He started back at school on Wednesday last week, I struggled a lot to get him to school - always trying to keep his a calm as possible - but he refuses to go to any lessons. I had to collect him yesterday, Monday, when he had left the building as was standing on a shipping container (I don't know how he managed to get up there), and there he stayed until I collected him. 

Today he refused to leave his bedroom and baracaded himself in with his bed. I managed to gain entry - on the promised to only talk - and after some digging we got to the point that he wanted (well more intened) to go to his lessons but he just couldn't go there.

I can only think that it's some sort of anxiety?  Learning support at school have suggested that CAMHS could help and a subsequent referal has been made by our Doctor.

Has anyone go though anything like this? - do you have any suggestions?

Any help welcome.

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  • Hi RosieF,  To be honest with you, mainstream school is a frightening place for people with ASD.  There's all the sensory processing problems, the change from one class to another, having to work in pairs and groups, having to speak infront of a class full of people, eat in a big hall, crowds, aggressive and intimidating people... Then there's the issue of bullying and if you're anything like me (I have Asperger's), you keep this all in because you just don't talk about stuff like that.  In addition, there may be problems with understanding some of the work.  I was a top student, but I struggled to understand instructions- everything needed to be very specific - and that's another stressful thing to worry about.  My son also has Aspergers and the best thing I did was take him out and educate him at home.  

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  • Hi RosieF,  To be honest with you, mainstream school is a frightening place for people with ASD.  There's all the sensory processing problems, the change from one class to another, having to work in pairs and groups, having to speak infront of a class full of people, eat in a big hall, crowds, aggressive and intimidating people... Then there's the issue of bullying and if you're anything like me (I have Asperger's), you keep this all in because you just don't talk about stuff like that.  In addition, there may be problems with understanding some of the work.  I was a top student, but I struggled to understand instructions- everything needed to be very specific - and that's another stressful thing to worry about.  My son also has Aspergers and the best thing I did was take him out and educate him at home.  

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