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refusal to go to school

RosieF

My boy, 14 with asperger has just gone back to school into year 10, a mainstream school with ASC provision. 

From Easter (year 9) we were starting to get refusals to going to certain lessons, we thought this was because these were not his choosen options for year 10 and he no long saw the point of them - okay that seemed fair enough.  Then he stopped going to learning support - refusal to go into the room and preferred to stand in corridors.  A TAF was opened lots of meetings without any real progress.

He started back at school on Wednesday last week, I struggled a lot to get him to school - always trying to keep his a calm as possible - but he refuses to go to any lessons. I had to collect him yesterday, Monday, when he had left the building as was standing on a shipping container (I don't know how he managed to get up there), and there he stayed until I collected him. 

Today he refused to leave his bedroom and baracaded himself in with his bed. I managed to gain entry - on the promised to only talk - and after some digging we got to the point that he wanted (well more intened) to go to his lessons but he just couldn't go there.

I can only think that it's some sort of anxiety?  Learning support at school have suggested that CAMHS could help and a subsequent referal has been made by our Doctor.

Has anyone go though anything like this? - do you have any suggestions?

Any help welcome.

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  • Hello, i have the same problem, my sons 11 just sarted high school, He's  been hard work going to school from being 6 to start with it was the wrong school he was in it just didn't work so i eventually managed to move him in year 4 which made things a.ittle better, i have fou d its largely due to anxiety around bullying or anxiety about some work hes been told is coming up  i just have to nag him till he spills whats going on then i phone the school and tell them, i honestly don't know what to do with hi  i have never been offered help on the issue and everytime i phoned his junior school with his problem i always got its stuck hes just going to have to get a grip. I am hoping high schools a little different and more willing to work with him.

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  • Hello, i have the same problem, my sons 11 just sarted high school, He's  been hard work going to school from being 6 to start with it was the wrong school he was in it just didn't work so i eventually managed to move him in year 4 which made things a.ittle better, i have fou d its largely due to anxiety around bullying or anxiety about some work hes been told is coming up  i just have to nag him till he spills whats going on then i phone the school and tell them, i honestly don't know what to do with hi  i have never been offered help on the issue and everytime i phoned his junior school with his problem i always got its stuck hes just going to have to get a grip. I am hoping high schools a little different and more willing to work with him.

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