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Mice

dolly1

Hi I was just looking for advice on how to deal with something.  My daughter has been wanting mice for 3 years.  We said no and compromised on her last birthday and got 3 guinea pigs instead.  However she saids she needs to hold them and breed them!! She sets up "humane traps" at every opportunitey. I suggested finding a pet shop where they had mice and seeing if we could hold them but they have to be at home.!! When seeing a medical professional in the week she spoke about this need and the professional thought getting mice away from the home was accepteble ie at a local field.  She has seen this as yes you can have a mouse.

I can't stand mice, she has now caught 2 in traps and is keeping them in a tank in our garden.  I want to just get rid of them but this would be a complete betrayal to her and she wouldn't be able to deal with it as she now has the thing she wants more than anything in the world.  Has anyone any suggestions how I should deal with this, she is 14 and has Autism

Thanks!!!!

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  • This seems easy on the face of it but I know some people are phobic of mice so I am trying to put it into context by imagining how I would feel if my daughter wanted a pet tarantula (which would trigger similar feelings for me).

    I would like to say I'd let her have one if she wanted it that badly (she's a similar age) but I'm really not sure I could cope with it in the house.  I'd be terrified of it somehow escaping and, unlike other pets, I really don't think I could step in and help if for any reason she wasn't able to care for it properly.

    Hopefully she will have a home of her own one day and could have one then, otherwise there are sometimes certain things we just have to accept in return for being looked after by others (there is always a difficult balance to be struck between everyone's needs in a family, but this does not mean we have to agree to everything our children want).

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  • This seems easy on the face of it but I know some people are phobic of mice so I am trying to put it into context by imagining how I would feel if my daughter wanted a pet tarantula (which would trigger similar feelings for me).

    I would like to say I'd let her have one if she wanted it that badly (she's a similar age) but I'm really not sure I could cope with it in the house.  I'd be terrified of it somehow escaping and, unlike other pets, I really don't think I could step in and help if for any reason she wasn't able to care for it properly.

    Hopefully she will have a home of her own one day and could have one then, otherwise there are sometimes certain things we just have to accept in return for being looked after by others (there is always a difficult balance to be struck between everyone's needs in a family, but this does not mean we have to agree to everything our children want).

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