Fitting in

Hello

I was diagnosed with autism too but have that feeling of a strong desire to fit in, where ever I go. It real is a real feeling and sometimes I go and really feel connected and other times I go and just feel total outsider with people who i know well enough.

I think there are times we have to learn to be kind to ourselves at the times we feel we don't fit in. It may be we are fitting in, just don't feel like that. I would think it must be much more difficult too if going to a group all who may feel that feeling becuase then no one is connecting to anyone and no fault of anything just that it something we don't feel.

I don't go to any austim social group as was diagnosed late in life really for that and yes I do find it hard to fit in secular groups if you like to determine it as that. I put it down to hard of hearing which the Specialist Nurse told me is autism too. Even when 100% included I do not fit. Then other times it good because I do fit.

I think it just one of the many traits of ASD spectrum and it good when people around us are aware enough and work differently to include us into the group. Problem I have had in the past is if I wait to join in, I don't get invited in and then is misunderstood as not willing to join in. Sometimes I didn't even know how to join in. But it gets viewed as not wanting to. Diagnosis been good for me because I have felt that missing piece a lot less and times when I do feel it, I am understanding it as alright then, this is autism. Yes I feel crap but it explainable enough.

Perhaps you fair better when in secular groups? or as I am sometimes and recognise at times am a bit of a loner. I don't mean alone. Just a loner. That has helped too.

Well before the suggestion of ASD was er, suggested to me I can remember not quite crying but as good as to the local parish priest that I don't fit in I don't feel.... I didn't know anything about all of this then but it comforting to know now, that it is a real ASD trait and I was justified in saying it to him, that I wasn't making it up it was real. He wasn't judging me at all and understood because he could see I was finding it all difficult even though I been there 30 years.  It a comfort to know it a real trait for us all.

Hello

I was diagnosed with autism too but have that feeling of a strong desire to fit in, where ever I go. It real is a real feeling and sometimes I go and really feel connected and other times I go and just feel total outsider with people who i know well enough.

I think there are times we have to learn to be kind to ourselves at the times we feel we don't fit in. It may be we are fitting in, just don't feel like that. I would think it must be much more difficult too if going to a group all who may feel that feeling becuase then no one is connecting to anyone and no fault of anything just that it something we don't feel.

I don't go to any austim social group as was diagnosed late in life really for that and yes I do find it hard to fit in secular groups if you like to determine it as that. I put it down to hard of hearing which the Specialist Nurse told me is autism too. Even when 100% included I do not fit. Then other times it good because I do fit.

I think it just one of the many traits of ASD spectrum and it good when people around us are aware enough and work differently to include us into the group. Problem I have had in the past is if I wait to join in, I don't get invited in and then is misunderstood as not willing to join in. Sometimes I didn't even know how to join in. But it gets viewed as not wanting to. Diagnosis been good for me because I have felt that missing piece a lot less and times when I do feel it, I am understanding it as alright then, this is autism. Yes I feel crap but it explainable enough.

Perhaps you fair better when in secular groups? or as I am sometimes and recognise at times am a bit of a loner. I don't mean alone. Just a loner. That has helped too.

Well before the suggestion of ASD was er, suggested to me I can remember not quite crying but as good as to the local parish priest that I don't fit in I don't feel.... I didn't know anything about all of this then but it comforting to know now, that it is a real ASD trait and I was justified in saying it to him, that I wasn't making it up it was real. He wasn't judging me at all and understood because he could see I was finding it all difficult even though I been there 30 years.  It a comfort to know it a real trait for us all.