I have a Daughter who recently developed Paranoid thoughts.
We can't break the cycle of her perceived guilt. please could you advise us on what to do. To condense what her problems are.She believes shes responseable for everything bad in the world i.e. All the crime and natural disasesters in the world. we explain to her in honest ways. That these events are simply not happening. Shes beginning to call her mum and me liars. Because inside her mind they are.
we are awaiting to see the local mental health team. But this won't be for at least five weeks.
Thank you for any forth coming advise
Martyn
It is a difficult combination. She is a decent person, who is rejected by others because she does not perceive social communications that others take for granted, hence the low self esteem.
I have had a variety of traumatic/tragic events, and have struggled to come to terms with them. I get odd misconceptions about things, which even I can see are illogical, more so as they unravel, eventually.
I would talk to her about this traumatic event, and eventually she may be able to talk to you. Pushing these things away because they are painful makes matters worse. I find it most useful when someone talks to me about how they feel after an event. We all have a range of rational and irrational thoughts when something upsets us.
I have ALEXITHYMIA. It is emotional blindness. I struggle to identify and put into words, any but the simplest emotions. If someone asks me how I feel about something, I often shrug or say fine, or it's in the past, because I have nothing to say. For example, when I am bereaved, I seek out others who are recovering from a bereavement and ask them how they feel. It is as though I borrow their words to think about how I feel. It helps me enormously. Whatever has happened to her, she may benefit from spending time with someone who has had that experience too and listening to them. It may take time for her to put her own feelings into words.
If there is no one who has experienced what has happened to her available, then you could perhaps try to imagine how you might feel in these circumstances, including the irrational things that come to mind, and talk about it. It may be that she needs an emotional interpreter.
I discovered that I needed one by accident over many years. I once had a miscarriage and became mentally ill for a while. It wasn't until I had a lift from an acquaintance who had had a miscarriage and felt the need to vent her feelings at length to me, as a captive audience in her car, that I began to recover. At first I was angry, but then realised I felt better, even though I had not spoken about my experience. Since then, when I have had a traumatic event, I ask others about their similar experiences and eventually found that I could talk too. I only heard that this problem had the name alexithymia, recently.
It is a difficult combination. She is a decent person, who is rejected by others because she does not perceive social communications that others take for granted, hence the low self esteem.
I have had a variety of traumatic/tragic events, and have struggled to come to terms with them. I get odd misconceptions about things, which even I can see are illogical, more so as they unravel, eventually.
I would talk to her about this traumatic event, and eventually she may be able to talk to you. Pushing these things away because they are painful makes matters worse. I find it most useful when someone talks to me about how they feel after an event. We all have a range of rational and irrational thoughts when something upsets us.
I have ALEXITHYMIA. It is emotional blindness. I struggle to identify and put into words, any but the simplest emotions. If someone asks me how I feel about something, I often shrug or say fine, or it's in the past, because I have nothing to say. For example, when I am bereaved, I seek out others who are recovering from a bereavement and ask them how they feel. It is as though I borrow their words to think about how I feel. It helps me enormously. Whatever has happened to her, she may benefit from spending time with someone who has had that experience too and listening to them. It may take time for her to put her own feelings into words.
If there is no one who has experienced what has happened to her available, then you could perhaps try to imagine how you might feel in these circumstances, including the irrational things that come to mind, and talk about it. It may be that she needs an emotional interpreter.
I discovered that I needed one by accident over many years. I once had a miscarriage and became mentally ill for a while. It wasn't until I had a lift from an acquaintance who had had a miscarriage and felt the need to vent her feelings at length to me, as a captive audience in her car, that I began to recover. At first I was angry, but then realised I felt better, even though I had not spoken about my experience. Since then, when I have had a traumatic event, I ask others about their similar experiences and eventually found that I could talk too. I only heard that this problem had the name alexithymia, recently.
