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...sinking again

Mandylyn

I started a new job 5 months ago and now off for the summer holidays. 

I started the job fine, people didn't know me which I felt very comfrtable with but now the old social interaction probs are rising their ugly heads and I have started to 'retreat' again.

In my previous job last year I hated the job and hated the people I had to wrk with even more which ended up with me totally shutting down with the staf and only communicating with the children (which is where I am most comfortable).

I generally work alone with children but at times obviously have  to meet up with other staff which is mostly fine, but I find myself slipping to the back as I can't converse well adn then it becomes a case of ' them and me....'.

I am particularly worried about having to go in for the day next week for a major move of equipment and stuff and i know there are going to be quite a few people there. I am known to most of them but just in passing and I feel this is going to be a another case of 'them and me'.......

I have not disclosed due to the nature of my work, and the thought of peoples ignorant attitudes and the possibl effect it could hve on my job (which incidently is not a problem).Frown

  • Hi MandyLyn

    If you haven't disclosed, does this mean that you are diagnosed?

    I can appreciate your struggles - outside of actually doing the job, I always avoided gathering with colleagues whenever I could. Social situations have always done to me what they do to all AS people. I'm afraid it's always 'us and them' and that's just a fact.

    I've never enjoyed standing there with a big sign saying 'I am very odd so please feel free to pick that up and beat me with it', but that's how it feels - they're going to spot me like a pack of hyenas spotting prey that's crept in amongst them, and that's when they'll turn on me. Clearly, the less exposure, the better.

    It's a pity that you won't have some kind of family emergency on that day, then you wouldn't have to go even if your sense of duty is forcing you to.

    I'm not sure what your work concerns are, so can't comment on your individual circumstances, but if you're a diagnosed AS person, they can't hold it against you and must make provision for you. Are you in a Union where you can get particular advice and support, as well as legal advice and representation if necessary?