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worried about mainstream

snagglepuss

hi all,im new to this site but would be gratefull for some advice,ive recently had a autism diagnosis for my 4 yr old daughter and im just very worried at the moment about weather she'll cope or not in a mainstream school which she goes into this sept,she's delayed in most areas including social interaction and needs constant prompting to do things at the nursery where she's at now,the teachers there think she'll be ok if she as some support at the mainstream which she's already got in place,but im still worried that she'll be behind everyone else or even worse get picked on,just dont know if im doing the right thing or not.

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  • Hi, hope you get lot of feed in from others too, stay with us!

    Unfortunately, this is one of those 'give it a try' things. You're being a Parent.

    If she has the right support in place at school, there's no reason why your daughter's experience has to be a 'negative' one. There is difficulty in diagnosing girls, but the very way that girls 'camouflage' their difficulties and make themselves harder to diagnose is because girls are better in social situations and are often able to 'hide' in groups at school.

    Remember that your daughter sees things very differently to the way that you do, but as she grows and becomes more aware of how her condition affects her life, she will be better able to talk about it with you and you'll just get better and better at helping her to manage herself. You will be learning together.

    You will know if she suffers at school, and I'm sure that you'll be able to deal with it. She doesn't need 'protecting' or 'defending' before there is an issue to do so over. What she needs is sensible guidance to help her deal with her day to day life whilst she grows her self-awareness.

    Your fears for your child are perfectly natural and completely understandable, but I don't think you may realise how lucky you are. Early identification of the condition is vital to the wellbeing of any ASD person, but please remember that she as an ASD person, NOT a person disabled by ASD, she is just different. Like anyone else, she will develop her own skills at her own pace - if she is behind in one area, you will find out what she excels at, too.

    You should avoid comparing her to the general perception of 'normal' and only compare her with other ASD people, if you need to compare her with anyone at all. You are still bringing her up to take account of her condition and include it in being all she can be. Parents tell us that there are many delights with ASD children, as well as a downside, and you learn to cope with either.

    Sounds like a general description of 'children' to me! All children are individuals, ASD children (and their Mums) are rare individuals. In terms that give me a warm feeling, you've been specially selected to have the care of this gift from God. You may regard it as an 'accident' of biology (and possibly, on occasion, a gift from hell). However you prefer to see it, you've got her!

    Enjoy the ride Smile

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  • Hi, hope you get lot of feed in from others too, stay with us!

    Unfortunately, this is one of those 'give it a try' things. You're being a Parent.

    If she has the right support in place at school, there's no reason why your daughter's experience has to be a 'negative' one. There is difficulty in diagnosing girls, but the very way that girls 'camouflage' their difficulties and make themselves harder to diagnose is because girls are better in social situations and are often able to 'hide' in groups at school.

    Remember that your daughter sees things very differently to the way that you do, but as she grows and becomes more aware of how her condition affects her life, she will be better able to talk about it with you and you'll just get better and better at helping her to manage herself. You will be learning together.

    You will know if she suffers at school, and I'm sure that you'll be able to deal with it. She doesn't need 'protecting' or 'defending' before there is an issue to do so over. What she needs is sensible guidance to help her deal with her day to day life whilst she grows her self-awareness.

    Your fears for your child are perfectly natural and completely understandable, but I don't think you may realise how lucky you are. Early identification of the condition is vital to the wellbeing of any ASD person, but please remember that she as an ASD person, NOT a person disabled by ASD, she is just different. Like anyone else, she will develop her own skills at her own pace - if she is behind in one area, you will find out what she excels at, too.

    You should avoid comparing her to the general perception of 'normal' and only compare her with other ASD people, if you need to compare her with anyone at all. You are still bringing her up to take account of her condition and include it in being all she can be. Parents tell us that there are many delights with ASD children, as well as a downside, and you learn to cope with either.

    Sounds like a general description of 'children' to me! All children are individuals, ASD children (and their Mums) are rare individuals. In terms that give me a warm feeling, you've been specially selected to have the care of this gift from God. You may regard it as an 'accident' of biology (and possibly, on occasion, a gift from hell). However you prefer to see it, you've got her!

    Enjoy the ride Smile

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