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hello everyone, little advice please?

Bumpsmummy

hi all, my little 4 yr old son, has at last after 14 months of determined fighting by us ,his mum and dad, a working diagnosis of high functioning autism. He talks constantly and it really wears us down. We feel guilty about saying this as other children can't talk at all. We should feel blessed. We ask him to talk quieter - he shouts, screams, sings and is unable to whisper etc. incessant for the 12 hours or so that he is awake. He simply says 'I can't' and I believe that he really has no concept of it at all. Was suggested to me that we buy him some ear defenders (head set) with no noise coming through, as he may be trying to drown out the sensory overload by talking over it and making himself be heard if you see what I mean? Has anyone tried this, have telephoned psychologist but shes not got back to me. If not, anything else we could try please? Thank you all and have a pleasant weekend.

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  • Hi, I haven't heard of anyone trying to block out noises by talking over them but I'm not saying it doesn't happen.  My son sometimes uses headphones with his music on to blot out noises he doesn't like but it irritates him a bit that he then can't hear anything but his music.  As you say, some people use ear defenders in response to noise or get equipment that generates white noise.  I was wondering if your son thinks he has to give voice to every thought + feeling?  His way of expressing himself because he thinks that's what supposed to happen.  Is he aware that people think about things without necessarily voicing their thoughts?   He must surely have some waking time when he's quiet, even if just for a few seconds or minutes?  Could you work at building on that with a system of rewards?  Does he understand there are all sorts of ways he can communicate inc. the written word + "thinking in his head"?  Cd you devise a "thinking in my head game"?  He cd tell you a bit later what he was thinking + get a reward perhaps, maybe a star?  My son sometimes presumes I know what he's thinking when he hasn't said anything.  I've had to point out to him now + then that I'm not a mind reader!  He sees the funny side when I ask him what I'm thinking + he has to admit he doesn't know.  Sorry of my suggestions aren't useful.  Keep on at the professionals, don't give up. Smile

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  • Hi, I haven't heard of anyone trying to block out noises by talking over them but I'm not saying it doesn't happen.  My son sometimes uses headphones with his music on to blot out noises he doesn't like but it irritates him a bit that he then can't hear anything but his music.  As you say, some people use ear defenders in response to noise or get equipment that generates white noise.  I was wondering if your son thinks he has to give voice to every thought + feeling?  His way of expressing himself because he thinks that's what supposed to happen.  Is he aware that people think about things without necessarily voicing their thoughts?   He must surely have some waking time when he's quiet, even if just for a few seconds or minutes?  Could you work at building on that with a system of rewards?  Does he understand there are all sorts of ways he can communicate inc. the written word + "thinking in his head"?  Cd you devise a "thinking in my head game"?  He cd tell you a bit later what he was thinking + get a reward perhaps, maybe a star?  My son sometimes presumes I know what he's thinking when he hasn't said anything.  I've had to point out to him now + then that I'm not a mind reader!  He sees the funny side when I ask him what I'm thinking + he has to admit he doesn't know.  Sorry of my suggestions aren't useful.  Keep on at the professionals, don't give up. Smile

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