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Had the most God awful day today

Coogybear
over 9 years ago

Can't quite get my head around the advice I was given today.

My son has Autism, wants to work, but no one will employ him because of his ASD and SEVERE DYSLEXIA. Can't work without significant support, which we are endeavoring to provide him ourselves because ATW have no clue about Autism and say they can't help him. 

Yet Citizens advice advised that he should give up self-employed supported work; with a note from his GP to say he's not able to work unsupported, because DWP have messed up our notification of 'change of circumstance'!!!!!!!!!

Their is absolutely no way I'm asking my son to give up his 'Reason for living and only opportunity to contribute to society', just to appease the DWP!

What do these people want???????

Branded scroungers and lazy if you claim 'unfit for work' and advised to give up work if you have the desire, but no independent help or support; beyond your own family.

I've also been advise to attend court by CAB. When i tried to explain to CAB that as a carer of two on the spectrum, I have enough to contend with without having to go to court, he said he had no clue about ASD, but I should attend anyway!!!!! Really???????

How is this equality for those with disabilities??????

So B----y angry!!!!!

Sorry for the rant, but i'm at the end of my tether.......Teenager sobbing inconsolably and disillusioned with a world filled with ignorance. The other in tears over an accident he's had. A disaster of a day

Is this really the message we want our youth to embrace?

Guess we are off to court to contest this. What a waste of money and a demoralizing time all round. Haven't people with ASD got enough to contend with????

God what a dreadful day.:(

Parents
  • over 9 years ago

    Thanks for the kind words socks. I try my best.

    I know I have to work harder than most to get it right and I knew I was clear when talking to the advisor and thankfully, that was confirmed. I guess it shows that the communication difficulties arn't always our fault after all.

    I feel sure I get things right quite a bit of the time, But I hate the patronizing attitude that sometimes comes with declaring you have difficulty and asking for things to be repeated or explained further. It's probably why I seldom do declare I struggle. No one wants to feel more stupid than they already do.

    When your dependance or reliance on advisors is so great, it's always such a shock when you are the one that suffers for others miss-advice. Generally, no one admits to getting it wrong when that happens and you are left holding the can. This time someone has admitted fault, but i'm still holding the can.

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  • over 9 years ago

    Thanks for the kind words socks. I try my best.

    I know I have to work harder than most to get it right and I knew I was clear when talking to the advisor and thankfully, that was confirmed. I guess it shows that the communication difficulties arn't always our fault after all.

    I feel sure I get things right quite a bit of the time, But I hate the patronizing attitude that sometimes comes with declaring you have difficulty and asking for things to be repeated or explained further. It's probably why I seldom do declare I struggle. No one wants to feel more stupid than they already do.

    When your dependance or reliance on advisors is so great, it's always such a shock when you are the one that suffers for others miss-advice. Generally, no one admits to getting it wrong when that happens and you are left holding the can. This time someone has admitted fault, but i'm still holding the can.

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