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My sons negative fixation...school related

JBeat

Hope this is the right section! My 10 year old son gets really wound up about any consequences that he gets from school, thing is he is normally well behaved at school and doesn't get many sanctions. He can have a really good day but will start being negative about it (usually at least 2 hours after he's come home),saying he doesn't like getting sad faces and that he will be rude to his teachers  and ta's By calling them cry baby(!) and other names.  This just comes out of nowhere and he can get really worked up about it and get aggressive, at times he gets so frustrated/angry that he makes himself cry. I have tried ignoring him, talking about it or coming from a different angle but nothing seems to be working. This has been going on for a good few months now and I don't know why he gets fixated about it. I am a TA myself but this has got me stumped! 

He will also ask a lot of questions (about everything!) and will say things like "will my teachers get sad if I call them names" "will I get in trouble" (thing is he doesn't say these things!!). 

Any ideas? 

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  • My son is very similar, even if the teacher has told me he's had a good day he'll still find a whole list of things that were bad and tell me about them, upsetting himself in the process. I just put this down to him feeling comfortable enough to express his true feelings which he might try and hide in school. He always has a tendency to be negative so I try and say things like "tell me three good things that happened in school today", rather than saying "how was your day" because he'll naturally focus on the negative and imagine it worse than it actually was. I think the negative mind set is the most challenging part of him having ASD as it can be draining but it is improving over time. I know it's not really an answer to your question  but I hope it helps you to know that your not alone. I would also ask the school senco if they can help, my son's school have done quite a lot of work around understanding emotions with him, even though he doesn't have a statement.

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  • My son is very similar, even if the teacher has told me he's had a good day he'll still find a whole list of things that were bad and tell me about them, upsetting himself in the process. I just put this down to him feeling comfortable enough to express his true feelings which he might try and hide in school. He always has a tendency to be negative so I try and say things like "tell me three good things that happened in school today", rather than saying "how was your day" because he'll naturally focus on the negative and imagine it worse than it actually was. I think the negative mind set is the most challenging part of him having ASD as it can be draining but it is improving over time. I know it's not really an answer to your question  but I hope it helps you to know that your not alone. I would also ask the school senco if they can help, my son's school have done quite a lot of work around understanding emotions with him, even though he doesn't have a statement.

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