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The big question this holiday is to play or not

jrandall10

Hello everyone

Our daughter has asd n spd, she is seven and loves getting toys for rewards but really struggles to play. It takes us to threaten no more toys until you play with what you have which leads to upset b4 she chooses to play. When she does decide to play with anything she keeps getting up and you can see she is getting bored. I would happily get rid of some toys and stop buying them but this causes upset plus her not wanting to earn her reward tickets which means terrible behaviour. I definitely think her SPD is more severe and some mum's on spd Twitter groups suggested we try more sensory play rather then normal toys but to have trays for shaving foam and gloom we need to make space cause giving her a little bowl she still gets bored. I'm feeling quite lost but I'm willing to try anything cause it's so hard to see her get stressed over something she should enjoy. She would play on her iPad every night but too much media over stimulates her. Can anyone help?

Thank you in advance xx

  • I also agree with you, she loves being outside but this is impossible from the time she gets up until she sleeps. Also her SPD makes her struggle to be outside for too long because of the smells and sounds xx

  • I 100% agree with you but it's more the struggle of how to keep her occupied. I've tried to go with the flow and follow her lead but she gets bored and that leads to her misbehaving xx

  • I am old fashioned, so think that kids (autistic or not) ought to be playing outdoors as much as possible, running around getting lots of exercise to knacker them out. All the 7 year olds I know have way more energy than adults, so expecting them to sit and play quietly for any length of time is probably unfeasible. 

    If she likes collecting things, how about taking her for some very long walks in the countryside, seeing how many nature objects she can find? I used to like fossil hunting, and at home digging holes in the garden to see what random items I could find. The toy I really wanted at that age was a metal detector, so I could go hunting for buried treasure. Not a standard girly toy - I despair when I see some of the plastic pink rubbish that is on offer today, and think it is no wonder when kids lose interest rapidly!

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    Is the problem here that your idea of what "play" looks like does not mean much to her? Perhaps she just wants to collect toys and she finds satisfaction in that but she does not do the same imaginary play that other kids would do?