GSOH? not me apparently

Thanks everyone for this varied perspective.

I was among strangers when this happened, so it is easier to push away than when it happens with people I know. I agree, most people would just say forget it, but I do hate being caught out like this. The good sense of humour label seems to be highly prized in social circles. I laugh at the things which make others with a more sophisticated sense of humour groan.

I also laugh at my over-realistic interpretation of some peoples remarks. I get the most ridiculous mental images of things and often wish I could draw, so that I could share my view with others. I used to work with an elderly woman who cycled everywhere. We were discussing the dangers of cycling on the roads these days, and she said she always had lots of illumination. I immediately had a mental picture of her on her bike with a string of christmas lights, supported by a pole front and rear, joining the handlebars to the rear mudguard.

I thought he was joking, after a while, and my husband said the same, when I told him later. Sarcasm, was a posibility that I had not thought of, but as he did not donate, maybe that's posible. My sense of humour/tollerance level was seriously reduced by tiredness from standing collecting.

I have now, I hope got this out of my system. It is good to talk to those who know how it feels. Thankyou.

Hi Marjorie195.

I wouldn't worry about it alot of People are full of sarcasm ,if you realise it later don't worry about it just laugh about it later.

Thats my opinion all the best and kind reguards Steven..

I think there is more to this than just being able to spot sarcasm. The barrier to seeing sarcasm is being able to read facial expressions and vocal intonation properly. I don't know much about Clapham or the bus service there, let alone men on the buses, but my perspective is that it is not much fun being caught out of step. And it is upsetting.

But we also seem to have a different sense of humour and find different sorts of things funny. Now I'm fairly intrigued by multiple meanings, and I confess I'd have been thinking Marks and Spencer even if I might be able to resist actually asking. Being inappropriate is an aspie thing, and I've got a feeling it could just be me one day that asks some poor multiple sclerosis collecting person the same thing.

So I would advise don't worry about this one, but I agree I'm too easily caught out by sarcasm and it isn't fun when you realise you've just been caught out. The thing is non-autistic people are tuned into accepting when they get caught out as part of life. Not having good social referencing means it hurts people on the spectrum.

So I don't think you can just dismiss it.

Hi Marjorie,

What would be the point of getting worried and upset by this? You have a choice:

a) you can either write it off as a mistake that you would rather not have made but just put it down to experience/senior moment/one of those things. It is just hard for us to come back with the right response in the tiny amount of time that such encounters give you.

b) You can get upset by it and let it ruin your day/week/year

Would the man on the clapham omnibus give more than a moments thought to this? Probably not.